Give her a break, goddamn.

Aww. Just give her some time, she'll come around eventually.

She's probably been abused, so stop feeling sorry for yourself and act like a husband.

I don't understand? Does she not want too have sex with YOU, or at all? I'm sorry either way, that definintaly is unfortunate but all the best. I hope it works out for you!

Only a complete lack of communication can lead to this outcome. Something tells me that even if she got down off the ledge and decided she wanted to have a normal sexual relationship, the communication issues won't fix themselves.

This is a big YDI. Of course there are some who decide to wait, and are sexually healthy and eager to eventually do it. But there's a good chance that someone who can handle waiting simply is not that interested and has some issues with sexuality. And you should be able to tell. On thing is to resist the urge, another is to show no desire at all. Did she ever got excited and passionate with you at all, was she a good flirt, did she ever talked about how much she wants to do it. Or was she always frigid? The only good news are, sometimes psychological unbalances can go from one extreme to the other... maybe she'll like it a lot when she tries it and becomes a dirty little nympho who can't get enough.

Alright, sex-after-marriage seems to work for some people, i wont judge that.. but seriously, how long did you know her for?! Did you even make out or did any foreplay to turn her own, to awaken her sexual drive? Jesus christ, not having sex is fine, but educate yourself on the subject if you're going to! Especially if you don't have any experience. you don't just present yourself to the wife naked and expect things to happen, not when she's a virgin herself. Of course the girl was scared. You both have issues. And as everyone else stated, clear lack of communication-even if the sex part works out, i can see you having problems in the future.

#250 is right on. kudos to you for waiting. but i know im sure glad i havent, i wouldnt wanna be married to someone that im not sexually compatible with. i think if it doesnt happen soon, its time to head to therapy, or get an anullment. and before everyone freaks out, i think having a strong and healthy sex life helps have a strong and healthy relationship.

this is exactly why waiting until marriage is a TERRIBLE idea. sex is a hugely important part of a relationship. how can you make the decision to spend the rest of your life with someone without knowing what one of the most crucial parts of your relationship is going to be like? YDI

#26, you're an idiot. I'm not married and I'm not a virgin, but it's not just cute to wait until marriage, it's safer in a lot of ways. Things are different for everyone, and you shouldn't say there's something WRONG with people who wait! At age 17, I was pretty much desperate to do it with my boyfriend, whom I loved and still love more than anything. Initially, I hated it, but I still wanted it, in the hope that it would get better, plus I was seventeen and insane. Also, I did love the intimacy. The only thing that makes me feel closer than connecting physically like that is getting high and falling into each other emotionally.