Anyway, point is, at her age, maybe she wasn't so desperate to do it, maybe she was scared (with good reason, it hurts a ton whether you're popped or not), maybe she's been abused, maybe she fears change. Hold her. You'll get through it.

You chose to wait for sex till marriage which is very wise of you both, but you need to understand that, even though you're married, she might not be prepared for this. It might seem like a bummer for you, but you still needed to respect her. She might've been afraid or really nervous. It wasn't nice of you to post this on the internet because it was probably very difficult for her, and if she didn't trust and love you enough, she wouldn't have said anything, and instead allow you to have sex with her with disgust and unwillingness in her heart. So you should be glad she said this, and told you how she really felt. And now you used it and disrespected it. I suggest you talk to her and really be careful and gentle with her. Try a more romantic loving scene that really makes her feel ready. Good luck. This really will determine how the marriage will end up, and hopefully great. :)

you cant buy the car before taking it out for a test drive you silly...

It's consummate, #16....you're an idiot.

are you guys amish?

does anyone besides me notice that *most* all the people condemning the girl (saying she's a bitch, a lesbian, you should get an annulment, "just make her", etc.) are GUYS?

Women are not marriage material. They are objects you collect. Any women who waits to be married to have sex 1 of 3 things. 1. They were a complete **** and found god and became a "reborn virgin" 2. They're bat-shit crazy 3. They're ******* worthless and will pull what she did to you.

Do it on the first date. Duh.

I guess it depends if she had never done anything sexual beyond kissing. If that's how it was I can understand her being afraid of having actual sexual intercourse before doing anything else. I would start off with foreplay kind of stuff for a while until she is more comfortable. But if she is afraid because of a traumatic experience..therapy? Good luck

This is why we test drive cars before we buy them. Now your stuck with a car that doesn't work for life. Time to make friends with Handgela.