Your wife honestly just sounds like she's a bitch. If your married to someone and they cry and ask to not make them do it! That's just the most stupid thing ive ever heard.

Ouch....something is wrong with her

#45, you're a moron.

Ooh, good luck with this one! No matter how you slice it, that reaction equals years and years of unhappiness and dissatisfaction...Maybe not too late to re-think?

wtf? she is your wife... ur suppose to have sex with her...

I wouldn't rule out some kinda of traumatic sexual experience when she was younger, or at least being taught that sex it a bad thing. Clearly, she doesn't associate it with feelings of love and intimacy, but fear and repulsion. And that might not have anything to do with you, but be issues your wife it dealing with. Obviously we don't know the whole story, but counseling might definitely be in order if she has such a big fear. There might be more to it than just "religious" beliefs, and you should try to be supportive in the meantime and not forceful, that will probably only make things worse.

I wonder if it's with sex in general or specifically her new husband.

@66, you really shouldn't be calling things stupid when you're incapable of formulating a grammatically correct sentence. @OP, your wife is most likely worried of it hurting, therefore, the best course of action for you would be to assure her that you have a below average sized penis.

I am not super supportive about not having sex before marriage just because I think it creates too great expectations, and also because sex IS a part of a relationship as much as some people might think it doesn't matter. But if you do decide to wait it's important to at least talk about it-clearly your wife has some issue you guys never covered whether she was a victim of abuse or just doesn't have any realistic expectations about sex. Just tell her you're there for her and try to ease into sex. Let her know she should take her time but also be honest with you about why she's afraid. Good luck!

BEST FML EVER. This is a true FML, kids, take note. As for the OP, I'm so so sorry. Be gentle and understanding, and she'll eventually warm up to the idea. She's probably just terrified because it's her first time.