ok i bet they didnt seriously mean they only loved their daddy. im also betting the kids werent exactly saying this in a sarcastic tone so they probably actually mean it. my little sister has said she hated me tons of times but she never meant it. and they didnt say that they dont love you they just prefer their dad. they probably dont get to see him a lot. when i was little i used to prefer my dad because i didnt get to see him that much.

I'm sorry they said that but of course you must realize that they dont mean that and it must be the strictness(which shows that you truly are a good mother) that drive them to say that when they really do love you. Please dont beat yourself up about it

Don't worry, they'll realize when they are older. If you the disciplinary one and dad is always buying stuff and spoiling them, don't worry. In the end, they will respect you more.

my dad was really strict so i used to prefer my mum and being with her. but someone has to be the bad guy..... chin up, stiff upper lip, cheer up.

I agree with #3 and #53, honestly. Unless the kids' dad is incredibly permissive and you're on the strict side, I kind of have to wonder where that's coming from. Kids do say things without understanding the real implications, but there's generally also a reason for what they say. When my sister was little, she'd go from "I hate you, Mommy!" to "You're the best Mommy in the whole wide world" within about two hours, and while it was partly just her being a kid who didn't understand the implications of what she was saying, it was also because my mom had a really bad tendency to get in power struggles with us and wasn't very patient.

#41: Your position seems like a sad one. Man, that's absolutely horrific. :(

it's not your fault hun. your hubby decided he would play the good cop. somebody's got to discipline your kids. if it were up to your hubby, your kids would be snotty bitches. but you are raising them right, so don't get down about it.

honestly, everyone has different parents. She might have deserved it or the kids didn't acually realize how mean they sounded. I doubt the kids are just mean to mom for no reason. Honestly asking them why they said that would be a good solution. Don't get mad at them though because they might already not like you because they might have a fear of you, confronting them in a bad way would make things worse.

My son has a god father who is my husbands co worker. When he brought the god father home, I tried to hand my son to his father. He reached for his god father and screamed and fought against his dad. He handed him to the godfather, and my son curled up on his shoulder and fell asleep. My husband was devestated. My son also will stop crying for my mom when I can't get him to. Its just how kids are.

that's normal. the kids love the dad because usually he's the one that play wrestles and has fun with and doesn't often get strict or angry with. you're a mom, that's your job to be like that. in the long run all kids realize their mommies were just as good as they're daddies. that's just what i've grown up with. and all that.