Wait. So what if he stops. You should be able to continues experiencing the ******. I mean I heard that one the ****** starts happening for women it does no need further stimulation. Pardon me if I'm wrong. Uh well maybe the guy stopped too early in you ******. Guess that explains it.

nope... just the opposite actually. the ****** dies unless stimulation continues until you ride it out (no pun intended).

Yeah, she probably meant she was about to reach ******. Though continual stimulation actually reaches higher satisfaction in both women and men, though it is not really necessary... if that is what she meant (that she felt unsatisfied or something)... well, OP, you at least orgasmed, right? Unless this is your first time with sex, though, there definitely is something wrong. What, have you never orgasmed with him before? He thought he did something wrong... that implies you've been faking it, just so you know. There's definitely something wrong if you don't talk about the fact you're not having orgasms. At least that is what it sounds like to me. But, I can see the implication that you're both new at this. In which case, LOL! Aw. Either way, though, he knows just what buttons to push now, doesn't he? [edit] As far as I researched, once you really do hit an ******, you can't stop it. Or what, you've never heard of premature ejaculation? Dying from lack of stimulation... you did still have it, though.

Well, the ****** starts with a sense of the inevitability of an ******, which is followed by an increase in both the sensitivity to stimulation and the tension in the vaginal muscles, before they begin to contract during the actual ******. This build-up to the real thing can take a pretty long time, and if you've never had an ****** before, you don't really know what's happening, or how to get yourself there--and you might not be able too if you're feeling self-conscious, even if your body's ready. So it's definitely possible to be RIGHT THERE...only to be left hanging. Once you're more experienced, you sort of learn how to breathe through it and draw it out, because that leads to a more intense ******. And once you've been with one partner for a long time, he (or she) will start to recognize the signs that you're getting there and will know how to maximize the experience for you. But this poor guy didn't know what was going on because he'd never seen it happen before, so he stopped before she had a chance to finish finishing, if that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense, letitbe, don't worry. Also, after reading my post over, I think I might have jumped a gun in assuming she might have been faking before/there are communication problems. Overthinking it, there are several other reasons for him to not recognize your ******. Everyone can ignore that, then (my edit limit ran up).

Even read that most girls find it really hard to get an ****** becoz girls usually are not so much in touch with their sexuality unlike boys. Well anyways it should be really hard for her to not know how exactly an ****** works. That's why i see a lot of sexologists advocating self stimulation for girls to come in touch with their sexuality. OP could do that along with his boyfriend.

Well, guys are more likely to ********** when they're teenagers than girls, but that doesn't mean they understand their sexuality better. A lot of guys are ashamed or afraid of getting caught when they **********, so they try to do it as quickly as possible. But that's not how to pleasure a woman, friends! So a lot of therapy for "premature ejaculation" has to do with teaching guys to slow down and enjoy the whole experience of sex as opposed to fixating on the end "goal." Also, DameGreyWulf, there are other therapies for it which involve learning how to stop yourself right before orgasming so as to allow sex to last longer. But yes, if the OP had been more intimate with herself, it's possible she would have been able to inform her BF of what was going on, rather than having them both be surprised.

@methwhatever: Yeah, actually, that's not a bad idea. Besides, if you aren't ready for sex, masturbating in front of each other, or masturbating each other, really gets you two in touch (lol, "in touch") with your sexualities, and also makes you more comfortable when you do feel ready. Wow, how many times have I suggested these things. I have read entirely too many sex articles.

@elara: It does nothing? I can understand "jackhammering" wouldn't be very pleasing (lol WHAPWHAPWHAPWHAP HOW DO YOU LIKE THAT BABE), but I'm pretty sure things in the vag is very nice, or else certain toys wouldn't exist. Unless you're talking about just your own experiences, in which case I've misread again! Mercy me. But yes most certainly there are multiple reasons for girls having a hard time, but I didn't get that he was trying to imply that, personally. I think I'll just go and say "what letibe said"

Exactly, but to train your boyfriend you need to know what an ****** feels like. As far as i know you need to communicate with your partner while having sex[I don't know, i'm a virgin(boo hoo)]. If the girl can feel the ****** properly then automatically she can help the guy slow down can't she?? letitbe and Damegreywulf are right. @elara. You got me wrong. I'm not blaming women for anything. I'm just saying that mutual masturbation can help a lot if the girl has not achieved her ****** and has no idea about how it feels. And of course girls don't ********** as much as guys so obviously they are in a lesser touch with their sexuality. I am not saying anything against women. All I am saying is that JUST GO FEEL YOURSELF!!!!

It's not that women are less in touch with their sexuality, it's just that, in general, orgasms can be hard to reach through just sex alone for the woman. Usually they are acheived through stimulation of the G spot, and it can sometimes be difficult to hit it. Some women have orgasms all the time from regular sex, some never do. It's highly variable. Try the ******** ;)

Meth, no worries, I'm a virgin too. I suppose we don't have much place commenting around, but apparently we're making good conversation. Hooray for looking things up, especially when you're a virgin. Preparing beforehand! Shit needs to be known, or it gets damned awkward (so I hear).

SHUT UP YOU FAG

The girls I've been with said it's not about only stimulating "down there" but simultaenously stimulating something else... Anyway...I think it's a good idea to occasionally ask the girl what she likes or how that or that feels. If she has fun, she's more likely to do something that you like.... to the OP: My earnest condolences. I did the same mistake once. She complained the whole day :-(

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