I say use that time to get closer, see how much you really like eachother. you can't be THAT happily married if you're falling in love with other people. You might not even really like eachother.

Love like this isn't exactly something you find every day. Is it real? If so, you have to let yourself consider it. But be absolutely sure before you break the heart of your spouse(s). You don't want to leave your wife and then she grows a conscience and decides to stick with her husband.

sucks to be you, see this why you dont form an emotional bond with people at work .

Keep calm and carry on..

Are you sure the feeling is love and not just strong attraction? I mean you wouldn't of married your spouse if you didnt love them , try to find out what happened to get you to this point before you cross it .

You're not happily married. But don't ruin your marriage because someone else is interested in you. Do stuff to fall in love with your spouse again, you won't even think of looking at anyone else. You just lost that spark in your marriage. Do something to get it back ;)

I'm going to go ahead and throw my hat into the ring and give up my little bit of advice. I think you both are good people. Probably just became friends at work. Work lunches, talking around the office, and before you knew what was happening you two have some strong feelings for one another. It was smart to acknowledge them so you don't feel unrequited and fall even deeper. And it was especially smart to decide not to act on them. **** everyone who keeps saying you can't be happily married and have feelings for someone else. You can, you're human. It's not like you're walking out the door with a suitcase. You're just acknowledging something you see in yourself. Now, my opinion on how to go about it. Start the project. Try to keep your resolve. Tell her to do the same. You're going to work together but keep the original deal. Don't cheat. You can't avoid each other. But you can avoid screwing one another with effort. If the urges get too much. Like you can't keep your resolve. Then sit down together with your spouses and tell them the situation. That you love them, but something is attracting you two. They'll be upset. But hopefully they'll understand. Maybe decide to have a romantic get away separately as couples to help build the resolve to be faithful. And telling them about the temptation will help your spouses help you stay faithful. There's quite a few steps to take before you decide that you like Becky's hair in the morning when you look over her cubicle, I better throw away X many years of marriage to see what happens. And to the people trying to tell you, follow the second person you love or you're emotionally cheating or you're a jerk for feeling something for someone else. Disregard that. If I was married, and my husband came and told me he was having feelings for a coworker. I'd want to sit down and talk to him and her. Show her that we are happily married and we want to work on it. Show her that I'm not throwing away my love and my marriage because of some feelings that could be nothing more than a grade school crush. Disclaimer: This is all advice given by a non married, non professional. I have an opinion like everyone else. But mine not be what OP wants to hear. But maybe someone else is having a similar problem and it helps them.

You definitely can be in love with two people at the same time. Just depends what you want ultimately.

Even if it I possible to be in love with two people op's wife deserves someone who only loves HER

Must not be happily married.