I think people confuse love with attraction. You can be attracted to any number of people, including your spouse. But love is not so much a feeling as it is a promise to keep the sacred bonds of attraction. That is why love is serious business and the word shouldn't be just thrown around. OP may be attracted to his co-worker but he has already promised to love his wife.

If he were really in love with his wife then he would tell her about his inappropriate relationship with his co-worker, I say inappropriate because they shouldnt even be that comfortable with each other to discuss those type of feelings, somewhere along the lines some boundaries were crossed.I honestly think the Op should have asked to be partnered with someone else or turn down the opportunity because although he may try to contain/control his feelings, who knows what she might do.This could just be a very messy situation

I've had coworkers that I worked with side by side, while in a relationship there are just things you do not do/discuss.How can you fall for someone without knowing them? Why are you getting to know your coworker? I personally believe that coworker relationships should only be at the most 'hi.how are you? Good.bye' no need to ask how parents are doing,how their weekend went, what kind of music they like,ect.

Honestly, even if op tells his wife he's in love with someone else then the trust is going to be broken.I know it sounds nice, hoping that she will be understanding & appreciate his honesty but anyone that's been in love knows that doesnt help ease the heartbreak.

Emotional cheating is real & just as bad, its not like when he leaves work he stops thinking about his coworker.(if his feelings are as strong as he says) How would you feel if your spouse came home & had someone else on their mind constantly, longing to be with them,ect.If you knew that, you would be hurt even if nothing physical happened.Even though everyone wants to act like theres a logical reasoning behind all this, you have to remember that love isnt logical.

You're a ******* piece of shit if you have feelings for an other women. You are MARRIED! What part of that don't you understand. If you cheat on your wife you're lower then shit. And don't think about divorcing her, that's the part of it.

Like most things in life you can compare this to a Simpson's episode. Remember the fortune cookie doesn't always have the answer. They could have just run out of the "stick with your wife" cookies.

Words of advice "if you love two people at once, go with the second one. If you truly were in love with the first one you would not have fallen for the second"

How are you happily married when you have feeling for some one else?

# 222 This is what's wrong with "emotional cheating" because you seem to be completely unaware. Any long-term relationship can lose its luster after a while and sometimes a person can become interested in someone else just because it's new. It doesn't make a person less commited to their significant other, if anything it makes the person MORE committed because if it's just "emotional" cheating, then the person selflessly set aside those feelings FOR their significant other, whether the feelings were serious or not. It's also incredibly posessive and controlling to think you can monitor who other people think about and how often. If the person wanted to get out, they would. Maturely putting extramarital feelings aside because he's married, piece of shit indeed!