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Isn't this a valid technique? Flooding or something?
Yes it's a type of exposure therapy.
You'd think he'd tell op that's what he was doing
Technically it is. But they are supposed to learn deep relaxation techniques first, then they build up a hierarchy of what they think would be frightening situations. They work up the hierarchy and use the relaxation techniques and they are gradually put in scarier positions. I don't think instantly shoving a spider in OP's face is a professional way of going about the job.
OP didn't really state whether or not there had been any formal therapy for it. I hope so, because starting it off that way = terrible idea
Systematic Desensitization
#47, there are several methods, but it is generally agreed that sudden exposure to the 'target' of a phobia is the fastest way to get rid of the phobia. It is the most distressing but an efficient method and also the fastest method to do it. The stress it causes the client, however, is why many therapists opt for the slower, gradual buildup process instead. It's a valid technique, but OP's therapist should have informed her first what she was going to do.
It's been pretty much discredited though, because it can make you even more afraid of the thing than you already were.
You're supposed to do it in steps. Talking about it, looking at pictures, then the real thing at a distance, then closer up, learning more and more about them as you go (and learning what parts of the fear are valid - aka what spiders in your state COULD **** you up - but also why you don't have to worry (ie: they are rare, they can't bite through human skin, etc)).
Shouldn't happen on the first meet... (Although I don't know the details) but the way the OP is talking, if they were still terrified of them it was probably because they were in their first meets...
Wow that's ridiculous. He's got the right idea but helping you the wrong way.
Nope that's really how phobias are dealt with.
#59 Between your comments on this page and the ones on the FML about Fifty Shades of Grey, I'm really starting to think that you're a troll.
56 is right thats the only way to face the fear. Op will eventually get used to the spider and see there is nothing to fear.
The patient is generally WARNED about it first, though. Simply nearly throwing their fear in their face without warning can make the phobia much worse; it depends on the patient and how they deal with their fears. Which is why there should be multiple sessions before anything of the like is attempted. Exposure therapy IS legitimate, but, as people have already said, most tend to do a gradual build up. Personally, it would definitely not have helped me. I am terrified of heights, even though I've been in many situations where I've been exposed to that fear. It really just depends on the client.
How the heck did someone like him get a job in therapy. You're going to need more therapy because of your therapist!
Perhaps that is the therapist's angle lol. 150 bucks an hour?! Why not!
Well doing what the therapist did is actually a credited way to get over certain fears
First of all that is an actual technic, you are supposed to start far away then stop to do some relaxing exercises and repeat this process again until you can touch it.
Facing your fears...with your face.
Gynecomastia isn't all that bad. Just walk up to a guy and ask for some free therapy.
What an ass. I wouldn't bother wasting anymore money on his "therapy." Its fairly common for people to have a fear of spiders. I had a daddy long leg on my shoulder when I woke up a few days ago. I nearly peed my bed. Cause I was wondering how long that thing was crawling all over me.
Daddy-Long Legs aren't spiders though...awk. They're harvestmen, a whole lot nicer and less dangerous than a spider. :)
He wasn't trying to be an 'ass.' That's a valid technique that therapists use for you to face your fears.
Here's a fact for you. That in one year, we eat 8 spiders in our sleep. The Daddy long leg was just trying to provide you with fiber.
That's like saying "I'm my eyes a dolphin is actually a bird." It can still creep you out, but it isn't a spider so don't consider it a spider.
40, that's got to be the most ridiculous analogy I've ever heard. Although a daddy long leg is not a spider, it certainly resembles one and so it's not crazy for people to think they are a spider. And I agree with 33 that the therapy method should have been done more gradually. If that therapist had shoved that spider in my face just like that, I probably would have punched him in his face!
58 - then compare dolphins to fish. Some people are dumb enough to think that dolphins are fish when they're really mammals.
Um if I were you I'd ask to see his degree, and perhaps switch therapists?
If they would help they would start with really really really small ones and then get to a basic sized one...but still that's not a very good technique...
No that is actually a valid technique and very effective. He went about it wrong. He probably should have started with a picture, something completely harmless and then worked his way up from there
He was trying to help you face your fear, which would help you overcome it. He probabky didn't know how serious your fear was and should probably try taking a different approach.
This is called aversion therapy. While his lack of confidence in the procedure is troublesome, it is common for therapists to help you to overcome fears by having you adjust and gradually associate your fear with something pleasant. The first step would be the spider in the box away from you. The point is to help you realize that it is irrational to be afraid of something that can't get to you by talking you down from your anxiety associated with the situation.
No, it's not. Aversion therapy is the process of associating something that is usually pleasurable and destructive to your well being with something overwhelmingly negative. For example, blocking opioid receptors in the brain as well as creating an emetic reaction (vomiting)when opiates are consumed is a common heroin addiction treatment.
10 was talking about systematic desensitization.
Yes, thank you #48. Sorry I got my terms mixed up:) #35 was also right
I'm not even afraid of spiders and that would've freaked me out. He's right about therapists helping you "face your fears". But he doesn't need to be so literal. That's not going to solve a thing.
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Isn't this a valid technique? Flooding or something?
Yes it's a type of exposure therapy.