I don't understand why being adopted is a bad thing. Your parents were able to chose you OP, they didn't get stuck with you.

It's not that it's a bad thing but that is a pretty big bomb to drop on somebody in front of a big crowd of people. Also highly inappropriate to do at a wedding of all places. That's a family discussion to be had at home first.

Being adopted, I could see how not knowing until later would be horribly emotional. I always knew. If my parents told me at my wedding, I would feel lied to about my entire identity and would be extremely angered. Being adopted isn't bad; parents telling you at inappropriate or late times is.

And why would being adopted be a bad thing?!?!

FML should really get on making that sarcasm font :P

#27 yeah. besides, I've noticed a trend in the comments in recent years to be all serious and understanding and supportive and whatnot instead of making jokes, completely missing the point of this website. Oh well.

Apparently, asking a practical question is unacceptable, too #35

Sadness? Awkwardness, maybe, and confusion, but I should hope not sadness.

I think it's pretty normal to feel at least initial sadness when you find out. There's nothing wrong with it, but still. They might need time to come to terms with it and fully accept it. It should be obvious a wedding is a terrible time to drop something like that.

Of course it's obvious it was an inappropriate time; I said nothing to suggest otherwise. I don't understand sadness though. I perfectly understand anger at this information being hidden and I can understand confusion at the life that has already passed, but I just don't understand sadness. Maybe because I found out early in life I can't relate.