Alcohol ruined my family, don't let it ruin yours.

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. I know how tough it can be to have a parent that's an addict, whether it's alcohol or other drugs. Addicts will use any flawed logic they can think of to try to justify their behavior.

My mothers been "quitting" for the past 20 years. My advice is to educate her on the downfalls of long term use. And hope it makes an impact on her.

I'm really sorry, OP. Lots of times alcoholics have this "I'm not as bad as Steve" thing going on. It's a defence mechanism. You can't force her to see the truth. All you can do is distance yourself if you're old enough to. If not, just try to keep yourself safe and don't get in a car with her.

Moms like this should serve time

My dad claims he's not an alcoholic because he spaces out his drinking every night

I used to behave exactly like your mum did when I was in my early to mid twenties. Eventually I sought help and haven't had a drink in almost three years. It isn't easy, especially when I'm at a social gathering and my friends all have a drink in their hand, but I just tell myself it's nearly three years sober, giving in to temptation would spoil all that hard work. I hope your mum can overcome her demons, it's isn't easy, but it can be done

Maybe your mom needs some serious help, sorry op

I can take care of her if you like...

As much as it sucks, OP, you can't help someone who won't even acknowledge they're drowning. If you're living on your own, it might be best to just drop your relationship with her before it becomes more toxic. If you live with her and are a minor, I would say to consider looking into her giving guardianship of you to a family friend you trust, either willingly or through some legal battle, if her drinking addiction is exceedingly dangerous to you or any of your siblings (if you have any). There could also be a law where you live that would allow you to forcibly commit your mother to a psychiatric wing; where I live, it takes two or more people at or over the age of eighteen filing a form saying that the person is a danger to themself or others. The people are usually family members or friends, but can also be psychiatrists, nurses or others that work in the mental/emotional health field. None of these are happy options, admittedly, but they are still options to look at since her alcoholism will only worsen the longer she is in denial.