My wife is Jewish, though not observant. I was raised Protestant though no longer attending services. It's entirely possible to love someone even if they are of different faiths. We have to respect each other for the person they are, not for the label of faith they come with. It is very foolish to only accept a person only if they profess to believe the same things we profess to believe. And that doesn't even count the many hypocrites there are in every faith who do not live the values they claim... OP, there are difficulties at times with interfaith relationships as you have discovered. But there are difficulties with every relationship. An interfaith one is not more or less difficult unless you make it that way. Forget any thoughts of trying to convert a friend or lover or family. Either respect them for who they are or don't get involved with them. And expect the same from them... Regarding becoming a matchmaker, I would not do that - At least not directly. If you had a gathering or party that you attended or gave, it would not be out of normal for your wife's friends to attend and your friends to attend. But I wouldn't do that purely as a matchmaker because it could become obvious and if anything went wrong with any of these matches, then there could be repercussions.

why should she have to convert for you? why don't you convert for her? the fact that she's setting her friends up with guys she knows because of you shows that she trusts your character, more than anything else. it's not that deep. maybe you should be more upset at yourself for being so incredibly selfish regarding her own personal faith and suggestions she makes to her own friends