Amen! in my opinion OP should keep the ring he's the one that made the choice to spend the money for it in the hopes that she would wait for him like a dumb ass. I say put the ring on the middle finger and promptly show him how great it looks on said finger before walking out the door and moving on. I've been there and i've dumped that and frankly i believe saying "i wanna date other people first" is code for "im not sure if we're meant to be together so i just want to see if someone else is the right person for me but keep yourself available just in case they're not"

It's blatantly obvious you don't realize how stupid you are.

The simple answer to this is that it depends. Not everyone finds the love of their life on the first try, as convenient as it seems. Often, you'll meet someone who, regardless of their dating history, desires to "mold" you into something they see as ideal, like a malleable piece of gold. Though it is incontrovertibly true that certain things can be changed about a person, the fact of the matter is that some people are incompatible with each other, hence the existence of breakups. That said, you don't keep someone around as "insurance," so to speak: if you cease contact with that person, it's that couple's prerogative. However, you don't put someone on hold like an Indian telemarketer just so you can bang chicks all willy-nilly. It's all about knowing where you are in life, and what is good or bad for you. I, for one, have come to realize that I shouldn't get married anytime soon, and, because of this, dating someone who has marriage as their first and foremost thought would be a bit of a disaster. |the kid|

Tell your boyfriend I apologize he's in love with an unsympathetic retard.

Freeze, she has every right to do as she sees fit and in many cases, this is what SHOULD be done. Think about it, of everyone took a break and found assurance, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high. I'd rather leave/get left to find truth in my/herself, than stay together, marry, then find out later an incompatibility that would ruin that ONLY chance you gave at love.

Freeze #87, that's why people should be together for a certain number of years before deciding that they're ready for marriage. The whole point of being in a monogamous relationship is being willing to commit to someone you care about caring about someone means concern for their feelings and loving them enough to be honest with them and saying "hey i wanna **** around but you should keep yourself clean because i dont wanna marry a ****" is no different than saying "you're my last choice". Time will reveal of two people are compatible or not and if you have that many doubts about being with the person then why even waste anymore of their time? alot of husbands and wives that i know say they dont regret not enduring that vicious battlefeild we call "dating around" alot of them have said they're happy and that there wasnt ever a doubt in their mind that they were compatible witht heir mate...sounds too good to be true but honestly in my opinion that sounds more ideal than keeping someone you love in limbo or being put in limbo

I feel sorry for your gf.