Your call didn't cause anything. Her lying about going off shopping and his attitude in general started the argument between them.

Yeah OP you cant do anything to help another couples relationship especially when you don't know them. Good for you for atleast letting them know where the phone was.

What kind of guy doesn't recognize his own wife's cell phone number?

Wait until he finds out how much divorce will costs his ass.

Don't be upset OP, it was that woman's fault. She shouldn't have been touching things that wasn't even hers..she wasn't that afraid if she even bothered touching his things. she was afraid because she was caught. I don't even have the slightest pitty for her.

PLOT TWIST: They saw FSoG and she wants him to be a financial dom to her!

I understand why you would feel bad in this situation but you really should not at all. First of all, you obviously did exactly what you should do when you find a phone. 99.9% of the time the person is going to be grateful you called. Second, some people are just always looking for a fight and that sounds like the case with him. If you hadn't called, he would almost certainly have found something else to be mad about.

That dude is an asshole. She needs to get away from that

#42 As someone else mentioned, it's hard to judge the lady without knowing the story. One of my friends was married to a dude who would totally control the house money. He'd give her a certain amount of money per month for her and their two kids (he was away working) and then check the receipts when he got back. If she spent more than he'd allowed for the "food allotment" or if she'd buy herself stuff like clothes (because he would only let her shop for personal stuff with him around) he'd yell about how she was wasting his money in order to sleep with other men...totally crazy dude. But then there's those girls who are lazy, barely work, then basically use their man as a walking credit card. It's really hard to judge a situation without more information...

#46 A fitting room is an odd place to buy food, just say'n. Also OP don't feel bad, you did the right thing. That's an expensive phone and I bet they were glad to get it back.

Plus, she may not have even bought anything. Maybe she just wanted out of the house and went to window shop and try things on. He sounds like an abusive controlling jerk and if the woman is smart she would get out of there fast!

Could it be her dad?

mmm if it was her dad id say she wouldn't have his credit card or access to bank account. Most people dont carry cash these days and especially in large enough quantities for her to shop with.

#57, 46 wasn't saying the woman bought food in the dressing room. They were wondering if the woman bought so many clothes she and he husband then could not afford to buy food.

Your just doing a good deed and besides he was probably gunna yell at her whether u called or not cause she was "spending his money" I would just give the phone to front desk. His wife will probably come back and try to find her phone

I really hope it was her dad otherwise that sounds like an abusive relationship to me

So...OP, you're worried about her being "enslaved" by her husband/boyfriend? Touché...

Is your friend still married to him

#80 I assume you're talking to me. They're in the middle of a divorce right now. It took so long (oldest kid is around 7-8) because he wasn't that bad at first, they got married right out of high school and she became a house wife right away, her religion frowns on divorce, he treats the kids well and he never actually beat her (so she felt she wasn't "really" being abused). Sooo, basically she had no higher education, they had moved far away from her family and friends (isolated), and she had no money. She was afraid she would lose her children if she left because everything they owned was under his name. In fact it's quite sad but she's currently separated from the kids for that precise reason (she can't afford a place for them near their school and is living far away with her parents)...BUT she is going through the proper legal channels and I am hoping they will at the very least have joint custody very soon.

Guys I don't think you should jump on the guy for going off on her or her for going out behind his back. Both are at fault. If she knows they're strapped for cash, she should stay home. He should be a little less angry when he confronts her about these things. And if she doesn't have a job, she damn well deserved that tongue-lashing.

It's hard leaving a controlling guy, just like its hard leaving any kind of abusive relationship.

no-one deserves to be treated like crap. it isn't always that simple as to just leave. it shows how young and immature you are to believe that.

So much easier said than done. You're manipulated to think that everything is your fault so you don't have any power to leave in minor cases, and in major cases you fear for your life. Damned if you leave, damned if you stay.

I actually agree with her... I mean sure people can just be controlling if that's the way they are but I think there are definitely some limits. If you don't love someone anymore just leave them, how hard can that be? I'm sure they could stay with a friend or family member until they can get a place of their own. If you are afraid you wont be able to find another partner then you really need to rethink your priorities.

It's not about being afraid to find another partner, at least not totally. I mean that can be part of it, a controlling partner can make you feel so worthless that you feel nobody will ever love you again and honestly who wants to be alone forever? Nobody should need somebody in their lives, but nobody wants to feel unwanted and worthless. Anyway, it's about being afraid of what your partner will do to you if you leave. If they're really controlling you might be afraid that they'll hurt you if you leave. Staying with friends or family probably doesn't solve that because they might know where you are. It can be hard if you're in a controlling or abusive relationship, it's something you can't totally understand if you haven't been through it. Though I haven't but I can still understand that it's difficult and not that easy. Of course this case depends. OP says he sound controlling and she sounded scared of him, but we don't actually know the situation for sure. Maybe she is at fault, he's just had enough, and he should be the one leaving her. We don't know. But it's not always easy to leave a relationship.