By Darthstormer - 01/01/2017 03:02
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So... Did it not occur to most of you making spiteful "be grateful" comments and variations thereof, that maybe OP is grateful to be able to celebrate with his kids, but is a little, oh, I don't know, pissed off about his ex emotionally neglecting their kids in a way that easily turn into emotional abuse if she thinks getting drunk is more important than spending time with her kids. Because, here's a hint: lying to your kids that you are sick in order to skip out on family time to get drunk isn't exactly a shining example of "How to Parent 101."
countryb_cth
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Thank you! It's nice to know I'm not the only one who sees it as he is mad about being lied to not spending time with his daughters. That's the first thing I thought when I read it.
mariri9206
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Yes! This! I never got the impression that he was upset to be with his kids on New Years - just that his ex-wife had lied and neglected her duties and responsibilities as a parent so she could go out and have fun, especially when maybe OP already had plans and had to cancel at the last minute to accommodate her? I'm sure OP loves the fact that he got to spend time with his kids but he has every right to be mad/annoyed that she lied to him - and their children - so she can get drunk with her boyfriend.
And honestly, if he was at all inconvenienced by the mother's lying and deceit I could easily see being frustrated at the situation for more than just her attitude. People make plans for holidays, and there's always the chance the dad had arranged to be out of town, out with friends, etc. and only called them off to be there for his kid since the mom couldn't be with her 'illness'. Finding out that he could have said 'no' and nothing would have changed on his ex's part would be a real kick in the gut.
Exactly!
really sucks that they lied! but on the plus side you know your children are safe.
f your daughters' lives for having shitty parents who complain about having to spend time with them.
Yes, as opposed to the parent who abandoned them with their father under false pretenses to get drunk, because being annoyed at a sudden change in plans is SO much worse. It's not like this situation is an early indication of an unhealthy home environment. Oh, wait. It is.
Nowhere IN THIS ENTIRE POST does the father say he is annoyed at having his daughters over. Stop making stupid assumptions. He is pissed his ex-wife is that much of a b*tch she can't even be honest about it and has to lie to him and the children (most likely) to be able to get drunk. H*ll, I'd be pissed about that too.
Maybe OP had made plans and agreed with his ex-wife that she would have the kids so he could go out. You're allowed to have a life outside your kids, and you can be bummed when the "sitter" backs out on you at the last minute. It doesn't mean OP doesn't love his kids. All you people act like you're grateful to be with your kids 24/7 and never want a little break. We don't know hardly anything about OP's life.
It sucks to be lied to, but the positive is that you were with your daughters on that day.
"I had to take responsibility for my daughter. FML."
Oh no, you decided to have children and now you have to take care of them. Wah.
mariri9206
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Oh no, you decided to open your mouth and blame OP for a situation that you know nothing about.
So, even if this year was unexspectedly your turn to watch the children you should have this year guaranteed free time for a New Year Party! It was most childish of your ex not to ask you honestly- but don’t sink to her level. Just tell her how disapointed you are and that you want to make sure this won't happen again. She is a grown up and not some teenager shirking out of duties.
I can not believe that people think it was ok for the ex to lie to him o.O Believe it or not but as a grown up she should simply have told him she wanted to change the custodity schedule and ask him if it's ok.
She may not be a teenager shirking her duties, but she IS a ******* full grown adult shirking her responsibilities and that's even worse. Especially since she's not doing her part because she wanted to get drunk. She not only signed on to care for the kids when she decided to carry to term, but signed on to care for them again when she fought for whatever percentage of custody.
Crappy of them, but I don't see the downside of not only spending time with your kids, but also hopefully keeping them from being sick. (They could have been sick but still gone out to toast, which again, is crappy)
enjoy the new years with your daughters. they could have asked I'm sure you would have been happy to have them.
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More like f your daughters lives because the way this FML was phrased it sounds like neither of you wanted to spend time with them for New Years. At least your with family OP!
Why are you complaining about having your own children to chill with. To me that's winning