By tricia_11 - 05/12/2016 22:15
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That man hasn't worked a day in almost 5 years. He took an early retirement and sits home all day. I work my ass off. I have a 3 hour daily commute on top of my work day. After sitting on his ass all day, he needs to cook me my favorite meal, give me the best sex ever and worship me for taking care of him! Yet, I'm thinking of myself? Get real.
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takeittoem
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This is one of the saddest FML's I've read. Sorry OP. Good luck.
My husband is the same way. It's a guy thing.
29: It's not a 'guy thing'. Don't group all men into the same category.
tounces7
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These kind of statements out of the blue irritate a lot of people. Because it's an unsolvable statement, really. It isn't a request, it's not a question, it's just a statement that expects the partner to just wave a magic wand and solve everything. If you want change in your life, YOU have to be the driving force behind it. Sure, you can give up and throw in the towel, that's also a type of change, or you can actually make change within your marriage yourself. It's really just laziness that tends to hold people back from getting what they want. Too lazy to leave, too lazy to make the changes they want to see. So they make these statements to their partner hoping they'll be the ones to just fix everything.
OP just wanted her husband to talk to her. Wanting to have a conversation with your spouse isn't exactly an existential cry for help. Judging by OP's replies, their marriage may have other issues, but, in general, wanting to talk to someone you love when you're feeling low isn't that unusual, nor does it mean you're unhappy and want to leave them. It just means you want to connect and interact with someone you love because that will make you feel better.
I disagree that it's laziness. Sometimes it's fear. Sometimes it's hope things will turn around. Actually, I doubt it is often laziness keeping someone in an unhappy relationship.
Great comment. It's truth. Now, if only I could put it to action in my life.
This is one of the saddest FMLs I have read. Sorry OP.
Sorry to hear about your troubles OP, but if the conditions are honestly as you say they are, you need to end it before things escalate from melancholy to general hatred for each other. To be honest, if he's been like this for the last five years it's your fault for not kicking his ass into gear or ending it. You still have my respect for being a rather awesome woman who's been standing her ground.
polsen4273
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Whata dick comment to make. Suggesting she end her marrige because her husband fell asleep? Get a life
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OP I was lonely and depressed for years. Had no idea why - husband of 15 years, good job, lovely family. His response when I shared how I felt was "What do you want me to say?" and walked away. One weekend I observed our interaction and realised he'd gone the entire weekend without saying one word to me. I left him. Biggest decision of my life. But I regret nothing and I haven't felt lonely since. Alone, sure. But not isolated and lonely. Good luck OP. xx
Maybe have that conversation some time other than in bed at the end of the day. I hope his response is better then.