Tell her to get an education. She probably wouldn't believe you if you told her that there are a lot of black people living in England. Also Charlize Theron is from Africa.

I'm also from Cape Town. :) if you were born in Cape Town or anywhere in South Africa. you'd say your South African not African.

Maybe the two of you need to spend some time working apartheid.

teach her our history with kid books like she's a toddler. she's a dummy

Tell her she of all people should understand why racism isn't okay.

Hey fellow South African... I get you. I'm sorry for that racist idiot. but what can you expect in this double standards day and age?-_-

I think what's happened here is that you're talking about your nationality while she is talking about your race. Nationality, race and ethnicity are all overlapping but distinct categories. So I don't think either of you are incorrect cause you're talking about different things.

Jumping in here since I'm also a white person born & raised in Cape Town. Speaking from the perspective of nationality I'm technically African but from the perspective of race I'm most definitely not. Given the history of our country & all of Africa, specifically the lasting effects of colonization I can understand why someone who is racially African might be offended by this. OP, let's be real- South Africa has very little in common with the rest of Africa, and within that, Cape Town has very little in common with the rest of SA. We're far closer to a European city than we are to, say, Kinshasa. I call myself South African which no-one has ever had a problem with. And I've never heard any other SA expat call themselves African or Southern African or anything else. I feel like some white people introduce themselves as African purely for the shock factor or for a Mean Girls punchline. Imagine a black person born in Sweden went to Africa & walked around introducing himself as "European" instead of just saying he's Swedish? People would be hella confused. A big part of the current problems I see in the world is that we're all so consumed in our egos (our sense of identity/self) that we lash out when something as arbitrary as our nationality is questioned. If we just listened to each other instead & tried understanding why someone feels the way they do, instead of immediately accusing them of bigotry of hopping on that downvote button, maybe we wouldn't have actual Nazis legally marching through the streets of the USA. It's not too late to turn things around.

you need to let her go

Same thing happened to me when I lived in murka for a stint... they started calling me "African queen" as a joke..