Why didn't you just make it all about her instead of you needing to "get it up"? Kiss her body, every inch, let her insecurities melt away be seeing how much you enjoy her and let things take its course. If you keep her so distracted by what you are doing to her and for her: she will relax and you will be able to "get it up".

It freaks me out how rapey some guys are on this thread. At least the OP genuinely cares about his girlfriend's wellbeing!

well that sucks. in my experience changing a woman's opinion, especially when it concerns thier own image is nearly impossible. using the direct approach is not going to work. but opinions of other women will help. so I don't know how, but if you get a group of women to like her image, say complements to her, it will build her self esteem. just be careful she won't find out about your ruse.

I thought you said 'terrible' instead of 'terrified' and I was like wow you're cold

Get drunk with her, turn off all the lights and ravage her. If you please her well, she'll want more and won't be thinking bout her looks. Lmfao just an idea.

Aww sorry she feels that way. Is she getting help? Maybe she should talk to a professional. Good luck.

Explain to her that erections are very similar, biologically, to goose bumps. Tell her that you know in a general way what causes goose bumps (light pressure, cold), but to try to get goose bumps on command is just silly. Sometimes our bodies do it, sometimes they just don't.

This is what is known as a red flag. She needs to see someone.

Go to couple's therapy, and ask her to attend therapy for her body issues as well.

I would probably recommend her to a therapist or something, unless you just happen to be a really good talker.