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OP, instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus on what you have. If you're not happy with yourself, a relationship is not going to solve that.
I dated this guy, once, who was a total douche. His friend always said to me he didn't get why my BF, who was a douche, could get a gf, but not him. I never told him why, but I will tell YOU. He looked terrible. I mean, things he COULD change, wasn't changed. His hair was uncombed, etc., and his beard, which wasn't really a beard, but like a weak attempt at it, looked terrible. HIs pants were pulled up to his navel and his blouses didn't fit. What I mean to say is, if you have an issue, perhaps you should look in the mirror and ask yourself if YOU would date you, considering your appearance. Perhaps showering more often, clothes that fit you and matches, and perhaps being more groomed, might be the way to go. This guy looked horribly ungroomed, but I just didn't have the guts to tell him. He was a nice guy, but kissing him would requite multiple showers.
That may be a tough but right thing to say. After being single for a long time it's easy to get a bit... lazy? Try changing some things up! Get a haircut! Buy a bright lipstick! Feeling special, you'll smile more and flirt more, which will surely attract attention.
I'm a bit wary of telling people that they must change how they look in order to attract a mate (obviously barring personal hygiene issues but that's not the case with everyone), and suggesting someone is unlovable when they don't love themselves hardly helps to kick start gaining confidence. But I agree working on confidence levels is worthwhile. I've found it much more useful to see the positives already there in your personality instead of striving for an impossible standard, I learnt to cut myself a lot more slack and actually stopped wearing makeup because I was appreciating my natural appearance for the first time. It meant when I did meet someone I wanted to date I approached it as someone worthy of their attention by just being myself, wacky dress sense and all.
Tell her to flip a coin and you will take the "loser"
wow messing with two people hearts, karma will sure get her back
1.) That's not how karma works. 2.) You don't know the whole story. She could be casually dating them, or in an open relationship that the guys want to close.
You aren't alone my friend! I've been single for 4 years, our time will come. Just use this time to focus on yourself :)
I like when people complain about tiny stuff like that. It makes me feel like a saint because I haven't kissed a girl in 20 years, 2 months and 4 days let alone dated one.
Yeah but if by 20 years, you mean that is how old you are, it isn't a problem. You are still young and personally I reckon most more 'serious' relationships start around 16 for some but at an older age for most, so you haven't had that much time to meet the person yet. A lot of 20 year olds have never been in a relationship - or kissed anyone, and that is fine but it is not spoken of so much so people tend to feel very alone and like there is something wrong with them. As others have said, your time will come :) I'm 23 and I haven't had much experience in kissing or relationships either - and a lot of my friends are the same.
Yeah? Well maybe I just want a **** already.
Yes, and I'm positively certain you'll get someone soon with THAT winning attitude. /s
54, just get a hooker already then, jeez.
I love how people are assuming the best friend is a cheater. It's called dating, not "being in a relationship with." People tend to date multiple people, before being exclusive with anyone when they're getting to know a potential partner. Often, people are not sexually involved at that time, or if they are, they should be letting their partners know they are not sexually exclusive.
Take the guy she ends up rejecting
Just date your best friend then?
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Honestly, I think you are probably better off than her in the long-term.
If she's seeing two guys, I'd say that she doesn't deserve either of them.