You either choose your spouse poorly or your spouse or you were not entirely honest and open with each other before you got married. Either way, it’s definitely not supposed to be that way… Personally I believe in living together a year before getting married so you know what it’s like living with that person before you make the big commitment… Whatever you do, do not start on having any children before you and your spouse work out the issues you have. It gets much, much messier and expensive if there are children and there is a problem with the relationship… You need to have a serious talk with your spouse but not in a hostile or accusatory way. Chances are you need to listen and to talk because there may be issues your spouse is not happy with either. If you feel the relationship may be salvageable after that see a marriage counselor, the other choice is divorce or annulment… Whatever you do, if the relationship is not salvageable, separate first before looking elsewhere for romance. Anything other than that leads to a very bad breakup.

A strategic retreat may be in order. If someone won't meet your needs, find someone else who will.