He didn't want to beholder. He didn't even want to LOOK at 'er!

21, we all like to think we are better than that, but if you're not attracted to a person you can't be with them.

And attraction is only based on physical appearance, right? /sarcasm

I agree personality is great but it's not enough. You have to be attracted to them.

... Again, attraction does not exclusively refer to physical attraction... You can be attracted to someone without knowing what s/he looks like.

Yea really, beggars can't be choosers.

Well said.

I completely agree. The first thing we are attracted to (about 80%) are physical appearances. The other 20% is getting to know someone and liking their personality first. I agree to a point but he didn't have to be a dick. I just keep imagining a perfect girl thats like 10lbs overweight and him saying this shit...

Sure, I "judge" by appearance - it's the first information you get about someone on a blind date or just meeting someone new. It's not a conscious process. What you CAN do, however, is not be a dick about it and get to know the person. Sometimes, even physical attraction can grow over time :)

Can I just say that outer appearances are about as brief to me as premature ejaculation. Once I get to know someone, they either become ugly or beautiful, regardless of how they look on the outside.

Honestly, if one gets to know a person really well and one likes that person's personality, everything about that person WILL become attractive. It's good to have a friendship before dating someone because then, the physical attraction is in the background to the actual personalities. No one has to "judge" anyone's appearance right off the bat. Especially in dating.

I know I'm going to get a bunch of thumbs down, but the pedant in me just has to correct you... #38, you're going to lose that trillion dollars... The blind and visually impaired probably don't judge based on appearance. Facially blind (prosopagnosic? spelling?) people probably don't judge people that heavily based on physical appearance, either. I also think you need to clarify what you mean by "judge". If that includes getting information (such as "This person looks sick because they're displaying symptoms of x, y, and z." or "This person is acting in an aggressive or suspicious manner, so I'm going to be careful around him/her.") then yes, it is nearly impossible for sighted people to avoid "judging" other based on physical appearance. However, most people probably wouldn't object to that kind of judgment. What people DO object to is making gross assumptions or having feelings about a person without being given much information, like assuming that people who are "ugly" are bad or that people who are "beautiful" are good, or making assumptions about a person based on stereotypes. Personally, I don't do the second kind of judging. Explain to me how I am "kidding myself". As far as I'm concerned, you've lost your bet.

I agree, the OP didn't have to be a dick and maybe he could even be friends with the girl, but if you're not attracted to someone, that's not your fault. There are certain physical traits I refuse to accept in a sexual partner, but that doesn't mean I am hateful towards those who have these traits.

It's fairly obvious that I meant people who could actually see and observe physical APPEARANCE. The word "appearance" should have been your big clue, pal. Secondly, nowhere did I say people should be mistreated based on their looks nor should people assume that ugly = bad and pretty = good in terms of personality. We're talking in the context of a sexual relationship where people (yes, that includes you) DO place some importance on physical attractiveness (whatever their definition of that is). Would you have sex with a 65 year-old woman who was 600lbs? If not, then you're shallow and you have no heart.

You said "I bet $1 trillion that EVERYONE on here judges people based on their physical appearance." Technically, blind, visually impaired, and prosopagnosic people can all use the internet. Therefore, you lost your bet. If you meant people who could see (which still technically includes visually impaired and prosopagnosic people), you should have said so instead of saying "EVERYONE on here". I gave the examples of pretty being good and ugly being bad to explain what I saw as the difference between making a judgment (as in an observation) and judging one's personality based on their looks. No, I don't judge people in the way you describe. The burden of proof is kind of on you to prove that I do... As for the 65 year old, 600 lb woman situation... There are many implications in that description that would make me not want to have sex with her that have nothing to do with physical attraction. For example: -I don't sleep with strangers. -I'm not a lesbian. -I've been given no information about this person, and therefore have no motivation to want to have sex with her. -Don't people wait for love and marriage anymore? *nostalgic sigh* -Relationships and people are not all about sex. -The age difference suggests we would have nothing in common. Likewise, I'm not interested in anime, so I wouldn't go to an anime convention looking for a date. -I have views about obesity that are neither related to physical attraction nor this discussion. I could go into them, but the short version is that most people are naturally and uncontrollably fat or thin to a point, but extremes such as 600 lbs imply either an unhealthy lifestyle or, in rare cases, a medical condition. I would go on, but then this comment would be even longer. :P Of course, you're going to just claim I'm lying, but I'm pretty sure that I know myself more than you do. When do I get my trillion dollars?