Take it from someone who had to deal with this all throughout school, comparing someone to someone else and scolding them for not doing as well is actually going to get the opposite of what you want. It's going to discourage them, make them think they're not good enough. Not all kids think the same way, not all of them are as good at one thing as the other is, you cant compare them like that and scold them. Encourage them to do better without bringing them down, and you might get better results. Really though, you deserved that.

Wow, you're a bad parent and you completely deserved that. Not everybody gets A's. It doesn't mean they're stupid. It doesn't mean they're incapable. Maybe he has a learning disability, or maybe he's just not good at school. Some of the smartest people just aren't very good at test taking. Learn to accept that maybe your kid isn't going to be 100% perfect. You should encourage A's, but if he doesn't get them you tell him you're proud of what he did, anyway. Otherwise your kid's going to grow up thinking he could never please his mother.

YDI. It sucks to be the other person in this situation...I mean, first of all, I would hate to go through life with the name "Ceejay," but also because comparing your son to this other kid could make your son resent both you and CJ, which is not a fun situation for CJ either. Find a better way to encourage your son to get better grades.

you shouldnt compare your kid with others it just causes the kids to be self-concious and do things they shouldn't to try and fit in

Even though telling your child to get straight A's is excessive, I don't think that comparing him to other people is a terrible thing to do. I don't resent the people I was compared to, and I don't have anxiety issues or feelings of worthlessness (I also learned to deal with negativity from being bullied because I came from Romania). I also probably did better in school because of comparisons, because I was motivated to achieve more. If you don't compare yourself to others, you have no frame of reference as to how much you can or can't do. It's good to be an individual, but you should be aware about how people around you are doing in relation to you

F Ceejay's life for having a name like "Ceejay." Think of it this way: can you imagine becoming a CEO/president/judge/etc with a name like Ceejay? Tell your kid he's better off in the long run.

Gah, my parents do this shit all the time, its so annoying, they always compare me to my cousins who get 4.0s. This is why I hate them so much. YDI for not helping him.

-What constitutes a bad grade? A B-? --C'mon, he's in ******* third grade, if you think grades at that age are a reflection of all his abilities (heck or even just some) than you're more naive than even I thought. ---Comparing your kid to someone else's kid is just BEGGING for an insult back. IF your wife said "Hey, look at Joe, he makes $50000 more a year than you do and he just got a new promotion, why the hell can't you do that?! We're getting divorced if you don't start making more money!", How would he respond??? ---Most school work is oriented towards people of a very specific mind set; specifically, left-brained people. People who are good with analytical skills, good with writing and verbal skills, good with audio comprehension, and who don't have attention deficit/hyperactive disorder usually do the best. That leaves room for a LOT of mental skills that don't get exercised enough in our school system, such as social skills, creativity in certain aspects, musical skills, artistic ability, spatial awareness...the list goes on and on. Not that schools really can cater to those skills without spending a shitload more taxpayer money, though... ----Hopefully he mostly inherited Mom's genes. **** YOUR KID'S LIFE.

You shouldn't be so harsh, elementary grades aren't that important. It's not till middle school and high school that you should pressure your kids into getting straight A's. That's just going to stress him out, when instead he'd rather just enjoy being young and having fun, since it's the only time when he doesn't have near as much responsibility as he will in the future. You deserved that one. Poor kid.

Don't compare your child to any other child. That's completely idiotic. You keep that up, and you'll owe thousands in therapy, you freaking idiot. Your child is obviously extemely intelligent, because he did not listen to your crap. Good for him!