If she wants him to quit doing something he enjoys and does't want to quit, then she should have to quit doing something he doesn't like her doing that she enjoys too.

Sure if what she enjoys is just as hazardous to her health and others then that logic is perfectly fine.

Its entirely logical because she married him knowing he smoked. Besides more innocents die from driving accidents than they do from second hand smoking. If you want to change someone you need to be just as willing to change, regardless of what habit you what them to change. Smoking is legal so op has every right to to so.

Oh I'm sorry do you know them personally? Do you know he started smoking before not after their marriage? Do you know if she did it because he just recently had a heat attack and like most addicts wanted to get back to smoking anyway? Tell me.

80: Do YOU?

Guess who lives down the road.

Nicotine in itself is about as harmful as caffeine. I switched to vamping eight months ago and I feel so much better. While they aren't harmless, they are much less harmful. Plus smell and taste amazing.

I could be wrong but I'm pretty sure once the cops got involved it became problematic for the wife. Even if what she did isn't criminal she's still in the position now where she would have to admit that she set her husband up essentially to look abusive. If that goes on record than from this point on if she ever has to lodge and actual complaint against anyone it's going to be questioned a lot harder because the assumption will be that she's pulling the same crap, no matter who it is she's filing the complaint about.

So sorry to hear about your mum! I hope you have people helping you go through this difficult time!