Okay, real talk for a second. Do you WANT her to run from you and never speak to you again the second she is financially independent or what? Do you honestly think that constant invasions of her privacy are supposed to help her become a functioning adult or is that just the justification you tell yourself so you can sleep at night? Explain your train of thought to me, here. Because from my perspective the only thing you’re accomplishing is making absolutely sure that she will never trust you to respect her boundaries ever again.

haha, YDI. Have some respect, or you don't deserve to have any kids.

Ok guys I get it - it’s ****** up snooping on your kid. But HOLY SHIT! FISHHOOKS attached to MOUSETRAPS?! OP is in the ER. Sounds like there will at the very least scarring, and worst case muscle or tendon issues. OP’s hand may be ****** up forever. OP is an asshole for snooping on his/her daughter - that is ****** up - but the daughter went WAY too far. Sorry, OP - you’re a privacy-invading, untrustworthy snoop, but NO - you do not deserve THAT. Put that kid in therapy.

Important missing context is how old is the daughter? If 10, then mom has every right to "snoop" and check up on her, and the booby traps are insanely worrisome. If 20, then not so much, but that makes daughter an adult psycho for laying maiming booby traps. Somebody needs to intervene here.

Have you seen those ads where Cecily Strong is sitting on giant letters spelling Verizon? I would like to get the same letters in Y, D and I and sit on them in front of your house. That's how big a YDI this is!!!

Tricky situation! There is an appropriate balance between reasonable concern and supervision for younger children and privacy. As children grow up into adults that balance point moves more toward respect for privacy…. Mouse traps I can understand - Adding fish hooks seems over the top… Dad, you get your best shot at teaching values and judgment when children are young. As they transition into adulthood you have to be a bit more hands off unless they ask for advice. You want your adult children to be able to handle life on their own and that means they have to make their own decisions and live with the consequences… How would, or did, you feel about your parents snooping on you? Do you think your daughter likes it any more than you did or would have?… I suggest that if Daughter is teenage or older making sure she has access to contraceptives. That will ultimately help both of you. And for everyone’s sake don’t be a “snoop” just out of curiosity - That’s not mentally healthy!

Yes, yes you do! Congrats!

Your daughter sounds like she’s bucking for a set design role in the next Home Alone remake. Which I hope is better than the ones since Home Alone 2.

I learned to hide things and lie pretty well because of this sort of parenting. me and my brothers questioned about small things, and the promise of no issues if we were honest (that was a lie every time, btw)... It leads to more creative hiding spots and better lies. when they started with punishing all of us until someone confessed to doing whatever they had done, I just took the blame as the oldest. but even now, I know I go from 0-100 when questioned about anything, don't like people in my personal space (apartment, room, etc), and know lying is the best way to avoid annoyances. He'll I even tell my nieces and nephew I'm not a roll model because I know this isn't how people should be... but you and parents like you create people who don't trust, who lie almost on impulse, and generally avoid any authority, including their parents. maybe wait to be given a reason to turn your house into a prison?