I suggest breaking up with her not being with someone who is not committed to keeping her legs closed to other men while in a relationship with another man.

How is a ring going to stop a cheater? It's not like marriage is a sanctimonious commitment that people take seriously, society as a whole has proved that to be a farce. Maybe OP should open his mind to the many alternative lifestyles that are becoming increasingly more socially accepted. Monogamy is going out of style, the mammals of this planet figured that out ages ago with only ~5% of them practicing monogamy (and the ones that do so appear to do it as a resource defense mechanism). I'm a fan of your comments btw ??

I don't think all cheaters are born that way. Some resort to cheating when their relationships are not meeting their needs. I just thought "girlfriend of 5 years" sounded odd. She's not at least his fiancee? Maybe his lack of commitment made her think of looking elsewhere.

1. Putting a ring on it won't stop people from cheating. 2. Some people are into polyamory or an open relationship. If all people are consenting, there's nothing wrong with being with multiple people. However in this case, OP assumed he was in a monogamous relationship and his girlfriend broke that contract.

I have a friend who's been with his girlfriend for 13 years. While they do plan on getting married, they aren't yet engaged. He plans on proposing after he graduated college and he can actually afford a ring. So length of time together has nothing to do with when they get engaged.

How old were they when they started dating? 9? Since the OP is going on business trips, I'm guessing he can't be much younger than 25. Some people want commitment and feel insecure without it.

Do you ever think before you comment or do you just spew random crap for a chance to get likes

I’m curious why you chose this comment to pick on me for. I clearly read and understood the story, so your claim that my words are “random” is absurd. You may disagree with my point of view, but my comment was clearly responsive to the story.

If a relationship isn't meeting your needs you leave. Cheating is such s horrible thing to do to do to someone. Honestly think we should let people who get cheated on take free revenge, no severe and permanent Damage but some assault ave destruction of property is fine by me.

They were 13 when they started dating. He's in graduate school.

You don't ever turn a relationship where one person cheated into an open/poly relationship. The entire point of that kind of relationship is that you can trust your partner(s) to be honest about who they are sleeping with, and practice safe sex. Those kind of relationships almost never have a "**** whoever you want, whenever you want" basis- the person is supposed to get their partner's/partners' opinion on the person, and IF the other(s) don't have any objections, THEN they can have sex with that person. Don't misrepresent polyamory and open relationships, they get enough shit smeared on them by media.

But what happens if a guy cheats? do they expect the woman to stay?