It will take ages for him to get over it though. Love doesn't just disappear when something happens. I hope he divorces her though. If she does it once then she'll probably do it again.

Whenever a comment anticipates thumbs downs, I feel morally downvote it.

Nine times out of ten the only reason a comment anticipates thumbs down is because they know how opinionated FML is and can judge when your opinion isn't valid

25 I think you forgot part of your sentence there. I'm sure you meant that you feel morally obligated to downvote it. Am I right?

39, I don't know if you were expressing displeasure about the FML community being opinionated, or just making an observation, but isn't that the entire purpose of the thumbs up/down? For people to express their opinions? Or is there some other hidden meaning I'm unaware of...?

Better than turning to drugs or alcohol.

@26 Trust is like a mirror. Once broken, it will never be the same again. His wife doesn't deserve a second chance. I went through almost 10 years of a miserable marriage and I never cheated. Don't shift the responsibility from her by saying that cheating is just a symptom of a larger problem. Cheating is indefensible. Why should it be his responsibility to work things out with her when she cheated instead of trying to work things out with him?

cheating is inexcusable. it is not better of a bigger it IS the problem.

I am sorry for what happened in your marriage, but that doesn't mean all cheating is the same. We know nothing about the circumstances here. Listen, saying cheating is a symptom of bigger problems within a marriage does not mean that it's the victim's fault, just that there were/are other issues that have not been addressed/dealt with. I did not say this is the case in every situation, either. In any case, it is better to forgive (even if he decides to divorce her) than to hang onto the anger and resentment. No need for op to be heartbroken AND bitter, or to realize he made a huge mistake by not trying. Pride isn't everything.

@51 I agree that he should forgive her, but I don't think he should stay with her. Trust is paramount in a relationship. Cheating is not simply a mistake. It is a conscious choice to betray your spouse. Why would anyone want to stay with someone who could make that choice?

This is called "jumping to conclusions". It is usually a bad thing.

No, this is called calling it spot on. Apparently OP was so self absorbed in playing video games that he tuned himself out to his wife. No wonder she cheated.

Again, you're just jumping to conclusions. You're turning "My life has gone to shit, I need to escape it for a little while" into "I have a serious gaming addiction that caused me to neglect my wife".

I think they were being sarcastic.

I disagree. Look around, there are over 1,000 YDIs and several comments besides the two I replied to that say it's the OP's fault for playing a video game.

I think you overestimate our judicial system...