By JayCee500 - 27/05/2014 23:05 - France - Paris
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I'm the OP. I posted this after my last session with my therapist--I'd realized that this particular person wasn't working for me because I didn't really connect with her to an extent where I'd be able to tell her all my problems. This is the first time I'm seeking therapy, and from what people have said, it sometimes takes a while to find someone you are truly comfortable with. Just to be clear--I don't think that my particular problems are at all special, and they aren't even that bad when compared with half the shit people I know go through. It was just getting to the point where I was deliberately excluding things that had happened to me/that I felt because I considered them too "pathetic" to share. You can probably guess that one of my problems is that I care way too much about how other people perceive me.
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here is the world's smallest violin playing just for you.....
My God. You poor thing.
Say what you want but I have been told to expand when I saw one they can take a lot
You need to tell her. That's what she's there for. And what she gets paid to hear.
I suggest finding another therapist if she cannot handle her job. You are there to seek help, not to tell someone about your problems based on how much information they can handle.
I've done that too OP... My therapist used to have tears in her eyes if I told her too much, so I searched for another therapist. If it isn't working, search for a new one!
That shit ain't healthy.
My friend was sexually abused as a child and the therapist cried during their session. It's not professional but it is their job
I know from years of psychotherapy and CBT that it can be difficult to "fess up" to someone, even a relative stranger like a therapist. Thing is, as you go through sessions, that stranger becomes one of your best friends, and if you are seeing one whom you really connect with, it really can be lifesaving, and they really do have the potential to understand you better than anyone else. It's a leap of faith, you need to make yourself appear vulnerable by telling them the truth and trying to be honest to them and to yourself. You've done the first step by seeing the problem, now you need to acknowledge that any self-betterment: Will take time, requires a conscious and strong effort by you, can be started by your therapist but ultimately you need to take that leap of faith. A good therapist's passion is helping you regardless of how depressing your story is. If you don't get along with him or her, find a new you. You really need to have a good connection and strong compatibility.
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You should tell her, that's her job OP
I've done that before, OP. at some point you gotta talk, or find a therapist you can open up to.