By Anonymous - 30/03/2017 20:00

Today, I finally told the girl I'm in love with how I've felt ever since we first met six years ago. She let me know that not only does she not feel the same way, she's always considered me a creep and only ever hung out with me because of our mutual friends. FML
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Same thing different taste

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That must be hard to hear, but use the information well to figure out what kind of attention might have been making her uncomfortable and what signs you missed that she didn't like it. Next time you meet someone you like, it could be the reason it works out better.

Six years is a long time to wait to tell someone you are in love with them. I wouldn't wait this long just because if this situation does happen it would be easier to deal with the rejection.

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Why did you wait so long? I will say I think it's weird if a someone knows quickly that s/he's in love with someone, but to wait six years to tell her? That's just weird.

It seems she had no idea that you liked her, instead you gave the creepy feeling because you liked her.

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I don't know OP's situation, but I was the girl in something that happened that could be similar. So I have an awesome group of nerd friends I play dnd and magic with and we watch movies and it's awesome, definitely something I want in my life. We're all socially capable and we're hygienic and dress ok and we're awesome and not judgemental. Their friend Donny, not so much. He'd been friends with them since long before I joined up and was dating the only other girl in the group. She was my friend, and introduced us the first time we hung out all together. The very first thing he did was pull me aside and tell me that years before he'd had a dream about a girl like me floating naked in front of him, and so we must have a common destiny. Yeeeeaaah, it went downhill from there. So he's a basement dweller who didn't use deodorant and he constantly belittled his girlfriend, my friend, for not being good enough. He'd call her stupid, ugly, inattentive, and I hated that a$$hole. He constantly bad mouthed our friends to me, saying that they were beneath him, even though he brought nothing to the group. He wasn't funny, interesting, smart, and he couldn't carry a conversation that wasn't about transformers. I started insulting him viciously to try to get him to leave me alone after he tried to spy on me showering at a comic convention where we all shared a room. My friends separated us and told me to be polite to him because they all had history. I was, I hated him but loved our friends. It was fine till we went to a different convention and he decided it would be a good idea to ask me out in front of everyone and say that I was the only one worth anything (of our FRIENDS) and that since I was the most beautiful girl he knew I should be with him. I told him he was an awful worth less creep and I hated him. He asked twice more. Some people build up a fantasy relationship and are shocked when it turns out to be nothing like the reality, especially nerdy guys towards nerdy girls

You deserve it. It is absolutely creepy to blurt out that you love somebody out of the blue after six years. Think of how that must look and sound from their perspective. Next time just say you enjoy hanging out with the person and ask if you can go out sometime. They will get the message without you coming across like a crazy person.

Tsukiyomi 16

She's not worth your time OP

The girl tolerated being at events with OP, despite the fact he scares her. Moreover, she did it without complaining to mutual friends, which would have resulted in the friends feeling like hey had to take sides. And it sounds like she didn't even talk negatively about him to the mutual friends, despite the fact OP scares her, or OP WOULD have heard about her not liking him. But somehow SHE is the "bad" one for going out of her way to not adversely affect the group dynamic? Are you even thinking about what you are saying? Whatever OP feels for this girl isn't "love." Or if it is, it isn't the healthy kind.

If you wait six years to ask someone out you are a creep. You're not in love with her, you have a creepy obsession with her.

She's probably felt you pining away for her. That definitely makes a woman uncomfortable.