By Helpless - 16/12/2018 14:00

Today I had to tell my girlfriend that we can't keep taking care of her drug addicted dad because it is ruining out lives. We have a 90 day notice to move and I said I won't move to a new place if she is going to have him live there. Guess who is looking for a new roommate. FML
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chosha_fml 26

I agree with you, but it’s her dad. It’s hard to give up on someone that close to you.

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weaboo 12

If the dad has a drug addiction get him into rehab he’ll thank you later

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onceuponatime456 16

You will be better off without the albatross around your neck!

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1gullible_bugger 33

drug addiction is hard. It is difficult to live with someone who is an addict. your girlfriend just wasn't ready for the tough love she would have to give her father.

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tipsyone 22

It’s her dad! What did you expect?? Seriously!!

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slkeithh 14

Difficult for sure. However, it's her dad... if he has nowhere else to go, it would have also been an easy choice for me. It's shameful and disappointing but if you're in a position to afford a new place, and he isn't, obviously her dad needs her. I just hope she's helping him and not enabling him. Otherwise, I'm sorry OP :(

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alycion 38

If she’s giving him a roof over his head without the condition he gets clean it gets out and sticks to it, she’s enabling. And sometimes that’s the push people need to get serious about getting help, realizing everything and everyone will be gone until they do get clean. Sometimes not.

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Jennifer Michelle Julietta 4

you should relocate. just start again somewhere new. I just did. about a month ago.

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TxKitten79 10

You did the right thing. Drug addicted family members who dont want help will ruin the enablers financially, steal to meet their "need," and suck the life out of you. Your ex-gf has to hit a point of rock bottom with her dad before she will be able to truly help him. I've watched my sister hurt my parents for YEARS, and she never changed regardless of how many chances they give her. It's sad, it really is.

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im_teekay 7

Yep, same with my step-son. They'll make all the promises in the world to change or get clean because they think that's what you want to hear, but they have no intention of doing anything other than finding the means for their next fix. They play on your good will, and they think that if they apologise for their behaviour and you give them another chance, it's tacit permission to carry on doing what they're doing (after all, in their heads, if you *really* disapproved of their behaviour you wouldn't let them stay.) They won't change until they have nothing left. It's hard for the family, and it feels cruel, but sometimes the best thing for the addict is to leave them to it, and get on with your own life

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saberjpg 6

You made the right call. You can't let him drag you down with him. Tough love is tough for all parties involved. Your girlfriend will eventually learn that too.

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Traveling_Book 9

It probably doesn’t seem like it, but you made the right choice. My brother is a junkie, and has robbed not only myself, but my mother and grandmother blind. I ended up moving out just to save my sanity, meanwhile he promises to change but just ends up right back in jail. This has been going on for 8 years now. You can’t force someone to change, but it drags you to hell and back to stand by them. Really a lose-lose situation all the way around.

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tounces7 27

Well then you got rid of 2 toxic people.

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