Aren't they all?

So I feel the need to ask. How old is she and did you talk to her about how stupid that is? :o Only reason I ask, is for a follow up. :)

Of course I talked to her, and she is 16.

#41, How is that "stupid"?! love is love you judgmental ass

#47, please tell me you're being sarcastic.

not saying there's nothing wrong about this, but if she likes this guy who are you to stop her? who is anyone? you are of course free to TALK to her about it, but in the end it's her choice, and even if it isn't the SMART choice it doesn't mean it is the wrong choice.

She knew nothing about him but the fact that he was cute. She went behind her folks back to see this "cute" boy. Love is love but she's a child, and she shouldn't be messing with someone that is locked up.

Who is she to stop her? HER MOTHER. She's underage, barely knows the boy, it isn't "love" and it's definitely her mother's business who she takes up with.

NO, it definitely is the wrong choice, she's 16 and he's in jail and we don't know how old he is. Not a whole lot of room there to argue the case. This is clearly a case where it isn't smart and it is a wrong choice.

Although I can't stop her from making faulty choices, I can at least help her to understand what the consequences could be if something serious happens. I don't believe in love at first sight, but she's been seeing him for a while.

I think the big thing we're all forgetting here is WHY is he in jail? Did he drunkenky pee on a cop and flash the public his bits or did he knife someone in the face? More likely though, he failed to pay a speeding ticket repeatedly or something (that doesn't make him a criminal, just irresponsible) Also if your kid nearly got themselves arrested, aren't you possibly the pot calling the kettle black? At the very least you could go with her to meet the dude. 16 is hardly a child also. Here in Australia you're a full fledged adult at 18. Letvher start making decisions for herself, good or bad.

59, if he's still in jail, I sincerely doubt that it was just something simple like failing to pay a parking ticket. It sounds like she's been visiting him for a while, and if he's been in jail for a while, there's a good reason that he's in there, and therefore, there's a good reason that a 16 year old girl shouldn't be getting romantically involved with an inmate.

Granted we don't no why he's there, but 16 is not an age where someone generally understands the full consequences of what they are about to do. Even if if he was arrested for peeing on a cop, eh someone that gets drunk and starts with cops is not a good thing. Even not paying speeding tickets is pretty bad if he's he shouldn't be racking up points like that. There really isn't a whole lot of good possible outcomes.

Are you the girl from the FML?

I would've commented "Speed dating: you're doing it wrong", but you clarified that she was going for someone in particular. Now I can't think of anything. Oh well. I wish her luck in that he's a decent guy that just did something stupid instead of having criminal as an occupation. (And wish you luck getting her interested in someone without either one going to prison.)

When you were 16, we're you making brilliant choices you cherished your whole life? If you did, congrats, but I, like many others did not. I'm simply guiding her away from the bad decisions and guiding her to the obvious. After all, love is love, correct? Not completely. If you love a boy (or girl) for what (s)he looks like, or for what (s)he is showing you, that's great! But what is on the inside: the criminal not showing its face? I think to truly love someone you have to know them inside and out, spend time with them, (other than the 20 minutes they get at the reception area) and get to know them. But that's just my opinion. I respect others, and don't know why Neat is being down voted, He/she is just showing their opinion.

Yes I know some of the grammar isn't crystal clear, but keep in mind I am on a phone, and I have fat thumbs. And we'll we'll we'll if it isn't autocorrect..

#47 I'm gonna say it's stupid, because nearly getting arrested at age 16, just to go visit a guy in jail, is stupid. Not only would she put a mark on her record for a guy who she met while he was in jail, but she would be stupid enough to go such lengths for a guy she might not even know much about. That's why I say it is stupid.

Also, OP, you seem like a great father. Keep up the good work. Hopefully one day she understands :)!

OP, do you, by any chance, know why he was arrested? We're all fairly curious to know! And did your daughter understand and stop seeing him?

What is he in jail for?

@81, children are stupid. They don't think, they can't make good decisions because that part of their brain hasn't developed yet. I wish I could say I was smarter then this girl when I was 16, I never did anything dumb enough to get locked up but I did fall for a dumb ass who knew what jail was like. She'll grow up and hopefully that boy she's talking to will too. My dumb ass criminal did.

@91,just because you were stupid at the age of 16 does not mean every 16 year old is as stupid as you were/are,nor does it mean that no 16 year old can make good decisions. Stop age shaming. Unless you can prove that all humans develop at the same pace and you met every child in the world to know that they can't make wise decisions you need to shut up.

96, not only are you missing the point, your profile says you're 15. You really can't comment on how it is to be 16. Everyone makes bad decisions when they're young.

I'm not addressing the point she made in the comment,I was addressing the part where she blamed the teenager's stupidity on her being a teenager,rather than blaming her stupidity on her stupidity. I'm not denying that the teenager could have done this out of inexperience in decision making,I am saying that just because you meet a lot of teenagers that were stupid or you were in the past,it doesn't make every teenager bad in decision making/stupid. Being at a certain age doesn't necessarily mean that you are less experienced than someone older than you and even if this is true,until you prove that all teenagers from all times were stupid merely because of their age even if they developed at a faster pace,all teenagers develop at the exact same pace or that every teenager that ever existed made a dumb decision,I don't think it's okay to generalize the whole age group even if this is common. I may not know how being 16 is like and my opinion may be invalid,but I know what it's like to be told you're dumb "...because you're young" and be completely ignored no matter what you say or if you say anything for no other reason than being a teenager/young,and it sucks.

OP, poop

She's 16, he actually has full control over forbidding his CHILD to pursue a man who is in JAIL.

Op I too know the troubles of having fat thumbs and an iphone

#52... Who is he?? He's her father!

I am wondering how she managed that. Don't you need to be on an approved visitors list? Doesn't that require parents consent for a minor? Why was she taken to a coed jail and not a women's facility?

She's 16... Assuming she's still living at home... She's not old enough to make that decision. If she's still living at home, it's still moms rules...

So what did this boy do to land in jail?

Some of the worst parents produce the best children. And some of the best parents produce the worst children. I'd say this has nothing to do with parenting.

Well that's not polite at all!

Don't be a dick. She's a teenage girl who probably hasn't really started getting serious about dating yet.