My husband was the same way before our son was born. Watch out, when your child is born your boyfriend will be hogging him or her from you. :)

Don't worry Op, I was the same way with my first born, until about 45 minutes after he was born. After that all I wanted to do was hold him. As a guy I can say, babies scare us, we don't fully understand how durable they actually are, but yet so fragile at the same time. Also I'm sure he'll be just excited as you after 5 years of being together. And congrats on the 5 year mark! :)

oh man, I had to reread the FML. I thought it said you were 5 MONTHS pregnant, then when I read that you hadn't told him yet, I was a bit concerned, lol

congratulations

My grandpa was always terrified of holding babies. He was afraid he would drop them.

Congratulations on both 5 years and the pregnancy. I can't help thinking he'd want to know when you do to share it for as long as possible? I would! Though I'm female, so it's unlikely I'd not know first (although, scrubs...).

Am I the only one that thinks this is NOT cool? An unplanned pregnancy is not something you should hide from your partner, regardless of whether you think he'll be happy about it.

122, loving the Scrubs reference! (what a beautiful episode that one was)

123, I agree with you, but she isn't hiding it, she's just waiting to surprise him with the news. If she was waiting for MONTHS to "surprise" him, then I would agree that that isn't okay. But she believes he'll be happy about the pregnancy, and just wants to pop the news in a special way :)

The problem with this surprise, 127, is that OP is making a huge assumption about her boyfriend's reaction. He may not be as thrilled with the news as she assumes, in which case it's best for him, and her, to know as soon as possible so they can figure out a plan if he feels that a child would be a burden rather than a blessing. Just because he's good with other people's kids doesn't mean he wants one of his own, though I certainly hope for OP's sake that he does!

How about you NOT telling him while on holiday??? That's a bad idea all around, it's not like you were planning on having a baby and you are suprising him with it finally happening. No! This is an accidental baby, you probably had your freak-out about maybe being pregnant and then the insecurity about wanting the baby, being able to take care of the baby, ... followed by acceptance. You had your chance at dealing with your unexpected pregnancy. Give him the same decency. This is DEFENITLY not going to be good news the first day you tell him if you guys weren't planning on having a baby. Maybe he's going to be glad with it, but only after he had time to think about it and have his freak-out. DO NOT think he will be instantly happy, he might even find it horrible after he had time to think about it. So why not doing it while on holiday? Because you 2 will be locked together into close quarters. He will have his freak-out (no doubt about it), you will be dissepointed about his freak-out because you are happy about this baby and he is supposed to be instantly happy aswell (even though you weren't instantly happy either). He will not be able to seclude himself to get over this shocking news, to prepare him with information, to think about it and to eventually accept it. No, you will be around and you will try to force him into happiness, offcourse you will because you are happy about this baby and as soon as he gets his freak-out (100% normal and 100% to be expected with unexpected pregnancies), you will start freaking out about him maybe abandonning you. No, bad idea, no. Tell him after the holidays and afterwards leave him alone if he needs the time alone. You only had to tell people about the baby as soon as you were ready to have it. Give him the same decency to be able to think about becoming a father without getting bombarded with questions and demands from you and/or your family if you are thinking about informing them soon aswell. And... him having a freak-out does NOT!!! mean he will not like this baby. It does NOT!!! mean he's more likely to abandon you. It does NOT!!! mean he's not ok with being a father. Having a freak-out is a normal response to having an unexpected pregnancy and I'm only repeating it over and over again because I'm under the impression that you think he will be instantly happy, wich he OFFCOURSE will not be.

Oh god. Do not tell him while on vacation.

#138 I don't understand why so many people are thumbing you down. I totally agree with you. You bring up some very good points. It was my first thoughts exactly. I understand why she would want to surprise him on vacation, but you are completely right. He is going to need time to process and maybe go out for a night with his guy friends and talk it over with them and have them reassure him and give him a pep talk.

hopefully the parental instincts will kick in when the baby comes :D that's usually what happens

138 I think you need to calm down. this is fml no need to write an essay

She's not hiding it. She's trying to set a mood for telling him. Good place, good news... And hopes of the best reaction. Get it?

He's scared of holding babies. I have a feeling he wasn't so happy when she told him. Not to mention op's follow up makes it sound like she got pregnant on purpose

Oh, go unknot your knickers >.>

Having a phobia doesn't make him any less of a man. He just needs to practice and overcome his fear little steps at a time like the follow-up above said.

#125: Many couples are boyfriend/girlfriend when they have kids. My brother and his girlfriend have a 2 year old and a 5 year old and they have been together for 8 years. They never want to get married.

Who else is she going to have biological babies with? Certainly not a girlfriend... No need to enunciate the boy in that. Sheesh.