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By purplekitty49 - 10/04/2017 15:34

Today I'm in a marriage where one of us wants to downsize possessions and the other one doesn't. Quote from yesterday's argument "I keep having to re-buy things that get thrown out." Umm, no that's the point. FML
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OP here. Some pretty negative comments! I wasn't asking him to get rid of his personal possessions like four display cabinets of knick knacks, nine tubs of record albums, every shirt he has ever owned out of our closet, two sheds of car parts, or any of the beer paraphernalia of bottles, cans, labels, caps, and signs. I just thought we didn't need three cheese slicers, two peelers, five cork screws, four can openers, or a nut bowl we've never used. Said nut bowl was that days particular item that was repurchased off eBay. Wanting to live in an uncluttered home after 30 years does not make me selfish.

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DudeistPriest 2

What you've got is a hoarder, by the sound of it. If he is, I can absolutely promise you you're not getting anywhere by just continuing to throw things out.

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C8H18 33

If he's immediately rebuying it, is obviously important to him. But if he's becoming a hoarder, get him help.

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CRC_101 31

I don't have any sympathy for you. You should be coming to an agreement about possessions before you throw them out, whether it's difficult or not. Possessions are your spouse's as well. And if they are so important/necessary to your spouse (and readily available) that they're being bought again quickly, you likely need to rethink throwing those things out at all. You don't have the sole right over deciding what "the point" is and what possessions can be thrown away. Marriage is a partnership.

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imnotcleverenoughforthis 14

Best comment I've read on here in a while. The term "partnership" is too easily thrown to the side. I don't know OP, but it sounds like they're being selfish in this one.

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kstates 2

She's not trying to sell important things, just the things no one needs. No one needs 4 can openers.

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kstates 2

She's not trying to sell important things, just the things no one needs. No one needs 4 can openers.

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C8H18 33

It sounds like you're being the unreasonable one. Along with inconsiderate and possibly selfish.

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purplekitty49 11

OP here. Some pretty negative comments! I wasn't asking him to get rid of his personal possessions like four display cabinets of knick knacks, nine tubs of record albums, every shirt he has ever owned out of our closet, two sheds of car parts, or any of the beer paraphernalia of bottles, cans, labels, caps, and signs. I just thought we didn't need three cheese slicers, two peelers, five cork screws, four can openers, or a nut bowl we've never used. Said nut bowl was that days particular item that was repurchased off eBay. Wanting to live in an uncluttered home after 30 years does not make me selfish.

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C8H18 33

If he's immediately rebuying it, is obviously important to him. But if he's becoming a hoarder, get him help.

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kittyfrog 3

Seriously, you people must have no idea what it is like to live with a hoarder. It is hell. OP, hoarding doesn't stop. It's a form of OCD. I know you've lived with this for 30 years, but it may be time to consider leaving your SO with their all important junk.

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DudeistPriest 2

What you've got is a hoarder, by the sound of it. If he is, I can absolutely promise you you're not getting anywhere by just continuing to throw things out.

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CRC_101 31

Right. Even if he doesn't have a valid reason for wanting to keep things, (I'm not saying one way or the other), just throwing the things out won't work. If he's a hoarder, throwing them out without coming to an agreement together will just exasperate whatever is stimulating his hoarding. I'd definitely bet he'll be more likely to "hoard" more things in the future if that's the way you approach it. If it's a real problem, a third party like a therapist should be involved to help mediate it all. Usually, throwing things out without permission just "triggers" hoarders or borderline-hoarders, and it will harm the relationship. It's not at all selfish to want to down-size possessions, but there are ways you do and do not go about it in a good relationship.

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