By Rainbow_Rhinos - 28/11/2015 07:17 - Australia
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OP here. My friends and I checked him out and he has a history of doing the same thing to girls in his own grade (he's a year below me). He bugs them online and invites himself into their lunch group, as well as watching from behind poles. He isn't very physically threatening, so no one sees him as a threat, but more of an annoyance. And very creepy. I'm not rude to him, but I don't want to encourage the behaviour so I just ignore it. When he comes over to our group we start talking loudly about bras or tampons and he wanders away soon enough.
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Glynnis62
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it's too hard to creep
There is someone who works at our local grocery store I could tell had some issues, he was just SUPER socially inappropriate with me (hiding my credit card and claiming I didn't give it to him- and when I panicked he giggled and said "just kidding")- following me around the store and telling me how pretty I am, he likes my hair, I smell good, etc. I've thought of talking to management but just last week they did a write up about him in our local paper saying he's on the spectrum and how proud his mum is of him and that he's gotten some promotions and is now going to be working more with the public now.
Definitely report him. You're probably not the first he's harassed, and you probably won't be the last, especially if he's working with the public more.
Being on the spectrum doesn't give him a free pass to make people uncomfortable and/or harass them. You should really talk to management about him. It could escalate to worse.
He needs to learn what is socially appropriate behavior for work. Talk to management at the grocery store. I'm sure that they want all their customers to feel comfortable in their store. He doesn't necessarily have to be fired, but they could move him to a less public job while he works on social interaction. He might even have a job coach (someone not employed by the store that helps him learn job related tasks) that could also help him.
Sounds like he's shy and he really wants you to invite him around. Invite him over, help him out.
Hey, props to you for being nice
That's just a sign he needs a friend. Get to know who he is. If he doesn't have any friends, then he probably doesn't know how and really needs a friend.
where you people see a potential psycho, I see social anxiety and a terrible loneliness. Think of it like this: Imagine you're starving and someone comes along and throws you a breadcrumb - wouldn't you follow them around forever hoping for another breadcrumb? instead of interpreting his behavior as creepy, look at it as a cry for help. Maybe no one ever bothered being friends with him so he doesn't know how to be friendly. Standing behind the pole spying on your large group of friends, he's like moses looking at the promised land where he's never allowed to go. Loneliness is a terrible feeling at any age, but it is magnified when you're surrounded by people who all seem to be friends without knowing how these friendships came to be. I was once that kid.
Damn lonely weirdos who are probably just socially awkward and need a friend...
why not just be nice and talk to him. maybe he just wants a friend but is to introvert to do anything.
He's probably just excited he's got a new friend, and/or has some minor disorder.
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The thing is, he's not gonna stop because he probably doesn't realise how creepy he looks. You should tell him once and for all, in a kind way, that the way he acts is a problem for you and your friends. It might hurt him on the moment, but it will be better for him on the long term. Hopefully, he will not act like that anymore with you or with other girls. I'm saying that because i was "that weird guy" some times ago (I have autism), and realising it allowed me to work on my behaviour.
Now's your chance to test your spy skills, stalk him back, REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY