I'm thinking this is more likely her boyfriend/fiancés sister? So she's no relation technically to the bride or groom.

You DO NOT HAVE TO ATTEND. You are not obligated to attend just because you were invited.

There is nothing childish about wanting to be able to celebrate your own birthday. Your birthday is the day when you were given life and a chance to affect the world. I'd say that's special enough without having to give it up because someone else doesn't want you to even acknowledge it

Right, so your saying that you never do anything for anyone else on your birthday? If my friend or family member was getting married on my birthday, I would be happy for them and feel blessed that they want me there.

AussieChild you obviously don't understand what everyone is trying to tell you. Wedding on birthday=fine, wedding on birthday and bridezilla banning you from celebrating it=not fine. Get it now?

Maybe she just didn't want her wedding to turn into a joint birthday bash. And there's a good chance that OP is just having a sook.

AussieChild are you the sisterinlaw or related to her telling some one to not celebrate their birthday is wrong.

AussieChild are you the sisterinlaw or related to her telling some one to not celebrate their birthday is wrong.

Um no, definitely not! I'm just keeping an open mind. And as someone who's 7 weeks away from my wedding, I know how hard it is to keep everyone happy. I would never tell someone not to celebrate their birthday, but I understand that SIL could be very stressed and trying to please everyone.

AussieChild: You confuse "open mind" with "agreeing with selfish rude people." I'm going to repeat what a bunch of other people have said and tell you this isn't about the wedding being on OP's birthday, it's about the future SIL being a selfish bitch and ordering the OP that she can't celebrate her birthday on that day, as in, the day of OP's birth. That is the ultimately selfish act that happened here. Not that the wedding is planned for OP's birthday. And news flash, it's not selfish to want to celebrate your birthday ON YOUR BIRTHDAY. Or in general. So stop acting like a childish brat and trying to force your fake open mindedness on the rest of us.

What everyone is trying to tell you is the same thing I've said to you. Just because you are getting married doesn't give you an excuse to act like a self centered bitch. The only reason you are taking this so far is because you are taking this personal and bot as a FML post. You go with what the post tells you not write your own story or we could be here hours tearing every FML post apart. The fact is as I already said like it or not when you choose to marry someone you are also marrying the family. You should show your soon to be husbands family the same respect you would show yours. The soon to be bride has not done that. There I no excuse to ask someone not to celebrate their birthday. They can't pick that date you can how ever pick the day you wed on. That being said I find it completely disrespectful to the mother of OP as she gave birth on the day that is being told not to celebrate. Also disrespectful to the groom as now it's causing family drama that wasn't necessary. When people have stressful times it gives you an opportunity to see how they handle life and OP's sister in law chose to be self centered.

Well, you obviously didn't read what I posted. I was asked not to celebrate my birthday, because they had decided to have their wedding day on that date. I would have been more than happy to share.

Exactly! It's not about not sharing your birthday, but to be told to ignore it altogether? If the SIL is so concerned about getting all of the attention then maybe she should pick a different day.

"someone who's 7 weeks away from my wedding" = not objective. Seriously, it doesn't matter how hard it is to "keep everyone happy". Quite frankly, everyone else EXCEPT for the SIL would be just fine with the OP and SIL both having happy events on the same day; hell, they'd probably love it. It's quite obviously the SIL who does not want to share her "special day", and she needs to change the date if that's the case, as the OP has every right to celebrate HER special day.

maybe she should of picked a different date for her wedding

I agree with Aussie !! Just celebrate on a different day omg

Well maybe OP didn’t want the birth of her child turned into an engagement party either. Ever think about that?