By neuronerd - 16/12/2016 14:29
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neuronerd
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I went to respond, but accidentally clicked on the next FML. But long story short, it's not a jealousy issue. It's that I know the guy who won, know he's interested in me, and was considering going out with him before I got back with my boyfriend. Now I feel bad that he's dropped a few hundred dollars for a date with me, when I know he was hoping for it to be a real date (no, not talking sex, just a potential to lead to more dates), but at least kids are getting to have a merry Christmas, because of his donation.
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species4872
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Guess who's going shotgun.
Don't see the issue. Some person paid lots of cash for you to have dinner with them, everyone wins.
mariri9206
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It's not a big deal. So you're boyfriend didn't get the winning bid. It's for charity, not your love life. If it bothers you that he didn't bid more for you, then maybe you guys shouldn't be together because, again, this instance isn't about your love life. If it bothers him that you're going on a "date" with some other guy, then maybe you guys shouldn't be together because, once again, it's not about your love life. It's for charity and if it bothers you both for the reasons above, then I think you two are focusing on the wrong things, especially because it's not a real date.
I don't understand what you're upset about. That you're going on a presumably friendly and non-romantic date with someone who is not your boyfriend for the benefit of charity or that your boyfriend didn't outbid him? Actually, I still don't understand because neither of those seem like an FML to me, more like a so what?
FalloutScrolls
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I fail to see how this is a FML story. You got back together with your boyfriend, and you're going on an obviously non-romantic date with someone after hauling in a load of cash for a charity. I mean, if your boyfriend is insecure about this, and that's what prompted this FML to be written, then I think he's the one with the issue here. What? Does he think you're just going to go all starry eyed and fall in love at first sight during an arranged charity date? Relax, OP. :)
neuronerd
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I went to respond, but accidentally clicked on the next FML. But long story short, it's not a jealousy issue. It's that I know the guy who won, know he's interested in me, and was considering going out with him before I got back with my boyfriend. Now I feel bad that he's dropped a few hundred dollars for a date with me, when I know he was hoping for it to be a real date (no, not talking sex, just a potential to lead to more dates), but at least kids are getting to have a merry Christmas, because of his donation.
A few hundred dollars? I'd have thought more.
hellobobismyname
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#28 - I know right? Only a few hundred bucks??! What a cheap guy.
Have you seen her pic? Wow! And she's smart! The winner is getting a real bargain. Lucky I wasn't in the crowd that night.
WeirdUS
29
Try to see if there's a way you could get out of it because if you were thinking about going with him before and you just got back together with your boyfriend there's no way that's going to end well unless you just don't go try to see if someone else one of the other bachelorettes would be willing to go
Wow, I don't know what the hell is wrong with so many of the people that are commenting here... I think you did a good thing in participating in the auction, even if I also hope that you were honest with the guy who placed the winning bet about being back together with your BF. Not doing so would be the only intentionally bad thing that you did- the rest was coincidence and bad timing. Thank you for dedicating some of your holiday time to helping a charitable cause.
cootiequeen4444
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In 29''s case, they were clearly being sarcastic and jabbing at 28's comment... I don't think they meant to start something... I feel kinda bad that people thought otherwise. On another note, I know it was for charity, but the auctions were called bachoralette auctions and OP should have dropped out when getting back together with her boyfriend. Or there should have been an announcement "this one has been recently taken romantically but could always use a nice new friend to to hang with" so the bidders would know nothing would come of this. It totally dishonest and wrong to leave out that one of the single ladies they were auction dates with was no longer seeing. Yeah, it would be pretty unlikely anything would come from it and the winners shouldn't really expect anything. but the winners shouldn't have to forfeit all hope unless warned ahead of time. If OP would have felt bad about dropping out, maybe her and her boyfriend could have just donated as much as they could to the charity before dropping out. I mean.. more money for the charity is good... but if the dude actually thought he was getting a legit date out of this regardless if anything would come out of it mind you, that makes it more scam-like and I. the long run, if word gets out, could tarnish the reputation of the auction. Or they could potentially get in trouble if the winner decided to address the fact he was kinda duped... I mean I'm not trying to hate on OP to much. They were doing something many people would balk at just for the sake of charity.. and charity stuff is always grand... but the end result is kinda sketchy... And if I was the guy, though I'd never do anything like bid on a date with a persom, I wouldn't ask for my money back or anything, but I'd be expecting at least a date were *I* be treated as paying any more for something that wasn't as advertised would be adding insult to injury.... and not fair to the bid winner... On a side note, when I say the people being auctioned as dates should be single, I'm not saying either side should expect sex to be on the table. I'm speaking solely about how a possible relationship though very unlikely should be possible if the two people hit it off... and def not being like" I would date you but I have a bf. sorry"
polsen4273
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I think you're just bragging.
polsen4273
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Also, I feel like the winner deserves something, you should pay for the actual date.
hellobobismyname
24
Deserves what, exactly? Her affection? A relationship? Or do you mean he deserves not to pay for the date? Because he donated to charity so he could take her out on the date.. He isn't being forced to pay for it. He offered. He outbid a bunch of other people so he could take her out.. What he deserves is a good night having dinner with a friend and the great happy feeling of making a difference in some kids' lives.
polsen4273
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I was thinking he should get a reach around at least after dropping all that money thinking she was single and that he had a chance. But if she picked up the tab, that would be nice too.
No. They are offering their time in a date. Period. They are under NO obligations to do anything more. Bidding on them means you understand and accept this.
Kaalschneid
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...Why? If there's a chance he could lose, why not just donate it outside of the event? At auction, the winner is the only one who pays anyway (traditionally). I think you deserved that. Also [Insert statement for equality, and paying for women, here]. YDI.
My understanding is that OP signed herself up for this event before she knew that she and her boyfriend would be getting back together. Charity auctions take time to organize and all the items to be auctioned generally have to be known and catalogued a while in advance. I've never participated in an auction involving people, but I imagine it's similar in that you'd want volunteers to commit ahead of time.
Well now you kinda have to do something.. ya know.. because of the implications.
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Don't worry about the boyfriend thing. Those charities are usually just for fun, like a dinner and that's about it. Relax and explain the charity to the boyfriend.
I think you are thinking too much into it.