You know if my mom had raised me this way, I would probably twice as better off than I am now. Alas, that didn't happen after the age of 6.5 years she had a child with my stepdad and then later had another and did nothing but pay attention to them. Pretty much taught me nothing .-.

149 - sounds more like he's a trouble maker and needs his ass whooped! Sorry if that bothers you, op.

Ha my five year old step son would could stay up till 3 or 4am if I let him. Hell he spends 2 hours crying when I send him to bed at 9 so he doesn't get to sleep till late as it is.

150 that's what happens when the mind gets bored, it looks for alternative stimulation. I had this problem myself, I by no means needed my 'ass whooped' in fact that would have made things way worse. I just needed a challenge, something to keep me busy. Perhaps op's son is the same way, good on you op for being actively involved in your child's education.

150 - my kid had caused all kinds of trouble before we found out he needed to be in advanced classes, no amount of whoopin' him would change that. 149 - even with him being in advanced classes there are things he feels aren't pertinent to his life/education, that doesn't mean he gets to pick and choose what he gets to learn. This is not college, you have to learn everything whether you like it or not.

When one of my older brothers did this to my younger brother, his punishment was then having to sleep in the same room as a terrified 4 year old.

at least you're trying Silver. Consistency is key. eventually it will get better

No? I went trough the same, I was in a lower math when I first changed schools and got a d, then went to take test to test into normal math, skipped algebra 1 and went into 2 and passed b- sometimes people need a challenge

In my opinion, you did the right thing concerning your son. Let him see that actions have consequences. I also suggest cramming your daughter full of sugar at a time of inconvenience for your son, and forcing him to watch her.

You know what OP if you don't push him to succeed now, he will probably despise you later in life when he can't hold down a job and blames you for his poor work ethic. You know the typical American, always blame your parents for everything wrong in your life. But since you are pushing him to succeed, yeah he is gonna hate you in the short term, but when he can hold down a job and starts to succeed in college and starts a career, he is gonna thank you. And maybe he isn't challenged enough. And with the no child left behind act still in place I could see that happening, but he still needs to learn that even if it doesn't seem pertinent to his life he still needs to do it, because life is full of stupid things that don't seem important but still need to get done. It's good that your talking to the school about it and getting involved in your sons life, even if he hates it. Sorry about your daughter, that trauma will take time to heal. In the mean time your son needs to apologize and spend time with her. Maybe instead of sitting in his room brooding, he can play ponies and have tea parties with her, and if he can't play nice then make him do community service or something.

149 I use to sleep in school for the same reason. Once my parents figured out the issue, they worked with the school to challenge me more. Eventually I was moved to a school better suited to deal with it. It made a huge difference. For me though, the first clues parents had was even with this behavior I was carrying a 4.0 gpa.

You're completely right on that I was the same way in high school, and now I'm a pre-med student in college. It's all about maturity in my opinion.

I feel like, either way he'll do what he wants. If she doesn't pressure him, he's not going to bother with his homework. At least if she does pressure, she's tried her best and there's a chance he will actually begin to work harder.

i can see why you dropped out.

My mom pressured me while I was in high school and I hated her for it. In the end I got excellent marks. I have my mom to thank. OP, I think your doing the right thing.

Nice excuse to dropping out...to much pressure? Welcome to life...would you like it on a platter?...pussy

You know, I was the same way back when I was in school. Didn't do my homeowork, slacked off in class and I had to make up 2 1/2 years of high school while keeping my grades up in my senior classes as well. And on top of that, I had insomnia and night terrors from all the stress and my parents were CONSTANTLY on my back. THAT is pressure and I STILL graduated!

Only if it's silver, anything else might be too hard on him.

If you dropped out of high school because of too much pressure, I certainly hope to never be one of your coworkers.

This doesn't always work though. My parents had put pressure on me with my homework, ad I did nothing about it. Why? Because the homework was too easy. No matte how hard they tried, I refused to do homework in any class except for math.

I completely agree I didn't even do home work and I graduated with honors homework doesn't matter all that much at least in my school It didn't...u can try to get him to do his homework without grounding him cause all that achieves is him resenting u and messing with ur 5 year old

If my parents don't pressure me I'd be failing school, I wouldn't be able to go to college and I wouldn't be able to get a job