Alcohol is not the answer to all the questions but it helps to forget the questions.

Homer Simpson!

That's the name of an Evangelion fanfic I read and may have jerked off to

...Thanks for that bit of information.

Jesus is behind the couch, if you're wondering where he is

Agreed. You've been strong enough to not go, to stay sober, you deserve someone who will respect that, not undermine it.

No. Never risk yourself for someone like that. Especially since obviously they aren't able to support and be there for you.

That's easier said than done for an alcoholic.

As a former smoker and nicotine addict, your quit is very fragile and you're either one puff away from a pack a day, or one sip away from 3 bottles a day. Your quit should be your most precious thing and no one is worth risking relapsing over.

OP here. To put it simply, no one is worth risking my sobriety for. I have too much to lose, especially now that I have a baby girl depending on me. I will not be having any contact with my ex beyond what is necessary to co-parent our daughter.

OMG, you two have a kid and he was expecting you to risk a relapse into drinking so he could have fun? Wow, he really is an absolute moron. But that said, are you sure that this is the real reason? Maybe he wanted out and picked the one thing he knew you wouldn't budge on so as to be able to "blame" you for the breakup? Either way he sounds really immature and a dumbass. You're better off without him.

Or... She can learn a little thing called "moderation." You know... like most people that drink and aren't alcoholics.

Or... you could educate yourself on alcoholism and addiction before talking rubbish

Alcoholics aren't there by choice. I'm trying very hard to stay respectful, but your comment really pisses me off. It's an addiction. That's why they have to have help and support, why its so hard for many to quit, why some might not be able to and lose everything. If they have any alcohol there is a very large chance of them falling back into it. It's not that they party hard or don't know how to drink in moderation, it's that they CANT.

66- Honestly, I don't know if that is his real reason, or if he wanted to be able to leave and blame me. I feel like it probably wasn't the real reason considering how hard I tried to get him to do things together that didn't involve going to the bar or club. I certainly would have had more respect for him if he had just come to me and said our relationship wasn't working for him anymore. 69- There is no such thing as a moderate addict. I am incapable of drinking in moderation and I will never be able to drink in moderation. It's all or nothing. I'm one drink away from drinking myself to death and I always will be.

My uncle is an alcoholic, if there's ANY alcohol around him or in the house he's drinking it. They're ADDICTED, not stopping just for fun. It doesn't matter how long she's been sober, it's ALWAYS easy to relapse.

No worries, I don't mind answering questions unless someone is being an asshole about it. No matter how long I'm sober, I will never be able to go have fun at a bar and not want to drink. As much as my head may try to convince me that I'm strong enough to go to a bar and not drink, I know that's not true. It's part of being an addict

I agree I'm 16 months sober and dd for my friends. there's nothing wrong with it