By gj09 - 22/11/2009 20:03 - United States

Today, my family sat me down and told me I was spending way too much time with my boyfriend and not enough time with them. My boyfriend has been away in Iraq for six months and just came home a week ago. FML
I agree, your life sucks 46 737
You deserved it 2 596

Same thing different taste

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DBkkk 0

That is mad messed up. Go spend some time with him. I betchu he loves you that's what counts.

Sun_Kissed18 25

Jeez, your family is selfish. Maybe appease them both and do things as a family and invtie your boyfriend?

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it's a bad idea to put your email on FML! or any other random website for that matter. Especially when you're on facebook heh

xzilx 1

haha yea seriously. And her facebook photo is a wedding photo of a sailor and a girl that I'm assuming is her. So this fml seems a little fishy. "boyfriend?" Looks like husband. But in truth isn't really an FML. You disagree with your family, big deal, it happens everyday.

kaleid0scopeEyes 0

does anyone else find it creepy that these guys put in the effort to go look up this girl on facebook?

cucumberfabulous 7

I don't get it..... how does everyone know her e-mail and facebook ??

rttr 18
MiseryAlice 0

Thats why you stop talking to your family after you turn 18.

Uhh, no generally you don't stop talking to them. I can see no reason why you would unless you come from one of those families where the dad molested you and the mom pretended not to know. I love my family and I plan to stay in contact with them for as long as possible after I turn 18.

Perhaps their complaint isn't just about the time you're spending with him now, but originates with the amount of time you spent with him before he was deployed. Maybe they were concerned then as well and felt they needed to say something now when they saw the old pattern re-emerging.

Eh, tell them to **** off. "Maybe they were concerned then as well and felt they needed to say something now when they saw the old pattern re-emerging." ... who gives a ****? It's her choice. She can do what she wants. She likes being around him, maybe more than them- for which, considering their behaviour- I don't blame her. Plus, if he's only been home a week, why would they be concerned about a pattern re-emerging? He's been gone for /months/ that they've had her, and he hasn't. So **** them. He deserves some time with her, and she deserves to not be complained to just because she enjoys him... especially when he's been gone so long.

I applaud you, dear lady! That is exactly it. I really hate when people complain about others spending too much time with their significant other. If they're bad news or it's getting unhealthy (as in, long nights, skipping school, etc, but that almost goes with bad news), yeah, sure say something to them, but don't go whining at them because you're greedy for attention. What part of partner/significant other/lover/etc don't they understand? I'd be more concerned if they never wanted to be around their boyfriend/girlfriend than if they wanted to spend a lot of time with them.

I agree with you. I see way to many parents in my profession who are concerned that their kids or teenagers are becoming "codependent" upon friends are the people they are dating. Just because someone spends a lot of time with another person does not mean it has to be a negative thing and it commonly is not. It is normal, especially for young adults and teens, to prefer spending time with their friends rather than their family. They spend about half of almost every day of the week at school, these people are the ones who they share the most intimate parts of their lives with. So long as there is mutual respect and caring then it isn't bad. Also the OP's family is really going overboard, he has been home for one week after they've been apart for a long period of time. I would guess that perhaps they just don't like him for some reason, or there is another reason for their concern (i.e. perhaps they had some issues with her running around and getting into trouble).

xdyingxwishx 0

Ok first off you're going to get a ton of spam from people. You might want to think that through next time. And as horrible as it seems that your family would say that, this doesn't really seem like a FML to me. People say rude things all the time. So you disagree with your family? It's not that big of a deal.

The supporters that this is an "FML" are taking for granted the fact that this chick is even legal. If this girl is young enough that her parents are "sitting her down" (and mine haven't since I was fifteen) and she's dating a guy old enough to have enlisted, been deployed and come back, then her parents are probably concerned about statutory rape charges, not her emotional dependency. Wouldn't you be a little disturbed if your high schooler were spending every waking moment with a legal adult, even if it was just for a few days?

newsgit 0

yes, but you must remember you're still assuming. If you were away from your parents for a week (and I'm ASSUMING that there's been little to no contact during that week), then any parent would sit their daughter down. She could be 19 and living with her parents. I could see parents sitting down a 19 year old.

mrzero 0

do what ever you r doing. don't let the sperm die.

Only a week? That's a freaky family intervention.

OP, thought you were married. quote: "im a navy house wife in california, i enjoy my pet rats, reading, video games, cooking, shopping, tanning, swimming and boogie boarding in the ocean, and i love my husband! HOOYA!!"

xzilx 1

# 28 Im glad someone else caught that as well. If this is your husband who the hell cares what your family thinks? You're married of course you're going to spend time with your spouse, that's what a married couple does.

CheshireHalli 19

This may not be a recent FML. They are all just required to start with today. =)

they edited her name, it's not her email address anymore... toink!