By cherokeems - 26/03/2015 17:44 - United States - Harriman

Today, my girlfriend of a month told me that the only thing keeping her from swallowing a bottle of pills is being in a relationship with me, because she doesn't handle breakups well. FML
I agree, your life sucks 33 585
You deserved it 3 035

Same thing different taste

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rachelfromtarget 14

Well thats not a healthy relationship.

alexish128 13

What are you 15? You say you love her after a month and then say you're falling for someone else? I think you need to figure things out...continuing a relationship like this is not healthy for anyone.

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buy the life policy and hope they rule it accidental

Well she can't mean everything to you if you only been dating for a month

CaitiieBuggs 23

80- I knew I was in love with my husband less than a month in, as he knew he was in love with me at the same time. We were best friends for three years before starting a romantic relationship. It's possible OP and her girlfriend have been close for years prior to the "official" dating. OP, you sound flustered in your responses. You switch back and forth about how you feel about this girl, and have a back and forth about another potential love interest. It sounds like things are moving very fast for you, and like maybe you need to take time to really evaluate everything. I'm not doubting that you have the capacity to be in love with this girl, but you sound flustered. As everyone suggests, help her talk to someone about her feelings, and make sure her schizophrenia is being monitered. She may be struggling with her feelings aside from her schizophrenia ans physical illness, and this could be her way of reaching out and asking for help. The bigger her trusted support circle is, the better; that way you don't feel all of the pressure and she feels she can go to multiple people in case this relationship doesn't work out between the two of you. Good luck!

I was in a relationship like that for two years. I kept saying to myself Im in a relationship w her, not her mental illness. That meant anything I didn't like I separated into another person/the mental illness. My partner tried killing herself multiple times after we broke up & self harming a bunch of times we were together but ultimately we were both happy separated. Codependency is not good for anyone. Good luck. Remember sometimes you can be a better friend or distant support person than partner

nialls_girl 13

Go get her to have help. Sorry OP.

"As an Empath"... Wow, may you need help too :P

KatzeZauber 7

Polyamory. You can be with more than one person at once. Its not cheating if everyone involved knows that you are dating other people. It is a give and take kind of relationship build, but it can and DOES work. Its all about trust and communication though, and its not for everyone, but please be aware that you need to TELL people you're with. If she's mentally ill like you say, she really should be on something to help her deal with these 'moods'. She could really hurt herself and they can be controlled and she can live a safer more 'normalized' life if she is on them.

It sounds to me like you both are very young and seem to put more weight on being in a relationship than the value of what makes it a relationship. If you are thinking of being with someone else, that does not make it sound like your girlfriend is your world. I'm sorry to be blunt with this because this is an emotional place, but a lot of kids need to hear the truth before it's to late and it slaps you both on your butts or worse. I'm not saying you dump her, but I implore you to get her help regardless. Suicide is not something that should ever be ignored. Call the police and get her help. Secondly she could change for the better and you could make a healthy relationship out of the extremely unhealthy one that you have. And lastly, think about the both of you and what is really keeping you together. You are not responsible for a choice that she makes because she believes she has nothing else. Speaking from someone who was highly suicidal, I stopped myself not out of fear of death but because of the "what if". What if I found a way through all of the pain I could not control and what if I found someone so I wouldn't be so alone. And I ended up graduating high school With honors, I broke out of my shell and made many friends, got the help I needed and my husband. It is difficult to believe it until it happens, but there is no reason to loll yourself. My grandmother did and it breaks my heart and I go through anger and pain every time. It is something I will never get over. There is no closure for that. I hope this helps you and anyone else who feels the need to do something so devastating.