By MymB612 - 24/12/2013 06:50 - Lebanon - Beirut
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I didn't realize I wasn't signed in when I posted that one. It's cool that got published! I love making handmade gifts, I think it's so much more personal and intimate to make something for someone that you know they'll appreciate. And by the way, to the meanies, I am indeed broke right now but that wasn't why I made handmade presents (I was very comfortable financially last year and made homemade stuff anyway, it's about the time and effort I choose to put into them, not their monetary value). Also, I am not trying to push my views on anyone, except maybe the belief that the more time and effort you put into something, the more it's worth. I'm an atheist lesbian by the way, and I still spent a month making gifts for a holiday I don't even believe in for my mostly uber-religious homophobic family, just because I know it would make them happy. So don't tell me about pushing my views on anyone, I respect their freedom of opinion just as I expect them to respect mine (not an easy feat in Lebanon, but I digress). Also, no, I am not making them home-made manure or a frame with some stickers on. I made them balms and lotions, personalized to their needs. Odorless moisturizing cream for my pregnant cousin. Natural heating pad for my grandma with arthiritis. Shaving cream for my uncle who has super sensitive skin. Foot scrub for my brother who spends his work hours on his feet. Healing balm for cuts and burns for my cousin who spends his weekends camping and hiking. Stuff like that. About my mom, the reason she gave me that ill-worded comment is because last year I had knitted a hat for my grandma, which turned out to be too small for her head (I had miscalculated), and also I had made a scented cooling pad that leaked a few days later, so she insisted that had I bought store-bought items there would be no problem. Yeah, she's like that. But hey, I understand this particular holiday is supposed to be about forgiveness, is it not? So I dealt with her as follows: I made her a gift anyway (Topical pain-relief cream for her sore muscles, she had a surgery last year and the muscles on her back hurt in the cold) but I didn't put it under the tree with the rest of the presents. She seemed so vexed and saddened. I went and talked to her and told her that I chose not to give her a present, since she doesn't appreciate the time and thought I put into them (and money, materials, hello). She apologized for her comment and said I was right and she was being mean because she had a very tough day and lashed out at me. Then she told me my presents for everyone were awesome, and I gave her hers. Made her doubly smile! So, all is well that ends well I suppose. I made sure she knew that she hurt my feelings, and got aknowledgment and an apology. What more can I ask for? Wow this post turned out huge, sorry for the eyesore :P Thank for the hilarious comments and warm support. Made me glad to feel that people still remember what they are celebrating, and appreciate the thought behind gifts more than their monetary value. Oh and for the couple of Lebanese peeps I saw in the comments, yen3ad 3laykon w 3a 3yelkon bel kheir :)
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I'd LOVE to get a handmade eco xmas gift! Maybe you should remind your mom that everything in Jesus' lifetime was eco and handmade, by our definition.
Some of the most memorable gifts I received were handmade. I got a wonderful quilt from a friend, made with pieces of old clothes we wore in high school. It was unique and very warm. I have it on my bed and it's been 7 years since she made it. My friends are very craft oriented, so I get homemade candles, scrapbooks, painted pictures, scarves, and cookies. However, as much as I love my friends, there are certain vegan friends who have tried to push their lifestyle on us, by getting us vegan deodorant, food, and other things we would never use. We appreciated the thought but eventually had to ask them not to get us anything at all because it was really just sitting around not being used and seemed like a waste of money. We didn't have anyone else who would use it and it never did the job like the store bought things. We were never rude about it, but unless it is to the person's taste, sometimes you have to give in and purchase things if you can. I have gotten used books, and loved them. But if you cannot afford to purchase presents or wish to make something from the heart, why not try making scarves or hats for people? Either way, your mother sounds really rude and its the thought that counts.
I love pancakes with nutella
?????? B-but this FML isn't even about- ..what?
It is my christmas nutella spirit :) merry christmas :)
If you're handmade gifts are good enough you could probably start a business around that and that'd really stick it to her.
A good gift is one that makes the receiver happy, no matter where it came from, who made it or how much it'd cost (if purchased). A good mother is one that tells her children this instead of the crap yours told you.
I can understand both sides. Her mom might be trying but a little blunt--I know mine is--and really mean well. However, it sounds horrible and likely made OP feel like crap. People tend to put a lot into homemade gifts and if Op does not have a lot of money to spend, she now is faced with thinking people hate her presents. It is a hard place to be in. I think Op might want to consider what sort of presents she is giving out. Maybe others put a lot of money into their presents and feel like Op is making them crappy presents, or giving them things they will never use. Op might just be terrible at crafts or pushing her lifestyle on them. However, the holiday should not be about greed, it should be about the love and memories shared between people. Unless the gift was absolutely disgusting or I was allergic to it, I would accept it with a smile.
Following #19, just get your mom something besides a hand-made gift, in your price range, with the receipt like she asked. For everyone else, go with it if you think that's a good gift. Not really a problem. Maybe your mom just really disliked the gift you gave her last year?
I think it really depends on what your "handmade eco shit" is. But usually I find homemade presents nicer because you can't just walk into a store and buy one, you have to actually put in effort and create it yourself. Let's just hope it's a nicer handmade gift than the piece of paper I rolled up and added a bottom to. I give it to my dad on my 7th Christmas and named it a 'pen holder'.
Today I received a $10 gift from a co-worker that read, "Thank you for teaching me all that you know." Best gift so far.
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I wish I knew you, I would LOVE to get homemade stuff as a gift! (I'm not being sarcastic, I love creativity and that's really cool!)
Wow that's incredibly ungrateful. Don't get her anything at all OP.