And it's not your wedding. So unless you were told that you can just wear whatever you feel like, quit complaining and wear whatever shoes you're supposed to.

I mean, you pretty much deserve it, unless the bride and groom explicitly said that you don't have to wear formal attire (yes, shoes are part of being formal). You have to learn sooner or later to respect the event and the people it is for. Better your parents lecturing you beforehand than everyone there hating you for being disrespectful.

I feel like there are a couple of interpretations here, and I'm the only one who believes mine. I don't think she's talking about it on a formal level. I think it's more a practical thing, as dress shoes, primarily women's, aren't necessarily suited for a farm. Now, the bride and groom probably know that, and planned accordingly, but I can see why she's still want to wear something more suited (I.e. Close toed and less nice) for a farm. That's what I took out of it, I could be wrong, but I certainly don't think OP is just being entitled here. Unjustly concerned, likely, but I doubt entitled.

I don't really see this as entitled. More like common sense colliding with social demands. If there wasn't a specific dress code sent to attendee, I could see this happening, especially if OP isn't particularly socially skilled to begin with. Maybe their reaction is bit off, but unless the bride or groom were upset, it's also off for OP's mom to be mad... Unless she's one of the marrying parties.

Gotta do what you gotta do to save money (I'm not only posting on this FML, this would have been rude I did)

#13 they're not even getting married they are going to a wedding, learn how to read fam.

You don't know where exactly on the farm the wedding will take place so wear comfy dress shoes (no skinny heels) & maybe take a pair of flats with you just in case.

why can't you wear trainers? hell for my own wedding I wore flats for the ceremony as soon as I walked out the hall I put my trainers on. I encouraged people to wear what they were comfortable in.

Yeah I mean there are options besides sneakers. Cowboy boots are the obvious choice but I'd bet that you don't own those. Depending on the formality of the wedding, nice sandals could work. Casual loafers could work. Or really, you just suck it up and wear dress shoes because it's not like they're asking you to do farm chores or walk through mud or anything

Wear slacks and dress shoes then. If it's good enough for men, it's good enough for women. I sure as hell wouldn't be wearing potentially expensive/dressy/easily mucked and hard to clean shoes to a farm. That said, why ask your parents? Why not ask the bride/groom-to-be whether they'd mind if you wore more casual shoes. I mean it's great that you thought to ask (or that's how I am taking the 'wanting to wear' phrasing, not 'because I wore') but your parents' opinion is worth jack shit when it's not their wedding. Unless it is.