They? Do you pleasure your spouse and their squad?

they... kills me

Who are ‘they’? Or perhaps you have multiple spouses?

“They” can be singular too.

It's a lifestyle, be part of it.

******* nerds... wait... that's the opposite of what's happening.

Have you actually, you know, talked to your partner about this situation? Is this new? Has something major happened/changed in their life (parent's death, depression, change of medication)? Do they have a natural low sex drive? Or maybe just figuring out that they're asexual or don't enjoy sex? Yeah, I'm sure it sucks that you aren't getting laid. But maybe you should try not to make it about you, and figure out what's going on with your spouse.

get better than your spouse at the same games

OP - There are three possible causes: Either your spouse is not getting pleasured (for real, not just acting) with yours and her lovemaking, or she is just not in the mood very often for sex, or she is just not into sex with you. I strongly recommend the book “Sex for Dummies” - It’s a real book available in the self help or sexuality section of the bookstore. Step one is to discuss this with your spouse at a time you are both calm and not upset. Listen to what she has to say. If she is not getting much out of sex she is not going to want it very often - Or if she is upset then likewise she will be uninterested in sex. I confess to being on marriage #3. (That is nothing to be proud of.) Women are somewhat similar to men in sexuality but also different. **** is completely unrealistic in how most of it depicts the speed of a woman’s response, but if you learn or figure out what fantasies your spouse is into it can help her to become aroused. Women generally have more emotional needs than men, It’s not “slam bam thank you mam”. And women need significant, prolonged stimulation to the ******** to reach ****** - which standard in and out sex does not usually provide. But that stimulation depends on the individual - Some need more clitoral stimulation, but with others direct stimulation is too much. You have to learn to read your wife or she has to tell you what works for her and what does not. There are physical “tells” to a woman’s degree of arousal - Stage one, she breathes a little heavier, Stage two, her clit is erect and her inner labia are swollen, Stage three, her ****** is warmer - She is close then. Personally what works in my marriage is that I use oral stimulation once she is mentally in the mood and combine that with a small “massager” until she orgasms. (I use an unflavored, unscented lube, by the way. It’s best if you warm it up beforehand.) Then we get around to me or our activity. By making sex pleasurable for your partner, she is more likely to be in the mood. Get the damm book and read it. I bought it for my son when he was a late teen and I also read it. If none of this helps and you wife does not have a medical condition, then you should consider marriage counseling and go from there.

Have you tried playing games with them ?maybe you need to just relax and have a good time together ,not concentrate just on the sexual aspect of the relationship.just concentrate on making them happy ,not being a self-centered thirsty bitch and maybe just maybe when they are happy you might get laid.