Still male, dumbass.

omg...you made me lmao! or is that imao. get it?

Well, I pointed out the gender thing, but I would have no problem whatsoever with OP being a guy and recognize it could be either way -- it's just that the gender of OP is ambiguous rather than definite.

Alan, who's a mod, responded to the gender discussion above, stating that "waiter" can indeed be ambiguous. I got a story published a few days ago; I couldn't specify my gender when submitting it through the app, but I used a term that made it clear which gender I am. When the story was published, that term was changed to something applicable to a male or female. It's just a guess, but maybe the mods keep unspecified sexes unknown to prevent hateful reactions/flame wars. Personally, I don't care one way or another which gender the OP is. Even if he's male, though, his bf may not be closeted, in denial, or dooming himself to being unfulfilled forever. Plenty of bisexuals marry. Sometimes they stay completely monogamous; sometimes they stay monogamous with their SO's gender while still dating the opposite, often with their SO's approval or participation. Maybe the OP is a male, but doesn't want to share his bf with a girl he hates. He could just be pissed at being relegated to the role of hired help, rather than the bf's equal partner. I realize I'm assuming a lot here, but no more than you are. It's not really fair to conclude that the bf is a self-loathing closet case and everyone arguing about the OP's sex is a homophobe -__-

I think you're right on, Jane.