and how many times have you been pregnant, mr panch?

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Ugh, again with the assumptions. Perhaps being a parent or having a child is always a blessing. Finding out you're pregnant is not. Unless the stars have aligned just right, so to speak, and OP is one of the lucky few who fit a best-case-scenario criteria, she now has to decide between changing her life to accomodate raising a child, undergoing a painful procedure with many possible complications and a complex social stigma, or going through nearly a year of physical stress by carrying the child, then giving it up for adoption, which again, includes the possibility of complications and a different, but no less complex social stigma. It's not an easy situation, by any means.

there is a lot to see when getting an ultrasound whether you're prego or not. maybe she just wanted to see what it all looked like in real life not jut from a book.

I think that is his point. Looking at an empty uterus would not have been as interesting as an active stomach or something. My ultrasound tech only did pregnancies. Maybe OP was at a place like that so she was showing placement. Still weird that you didn't actually shadow her (watch her perform her job on real patients).

there are some things that get checked I'm a routine scan. for women it's for prego. The more emotionally she insists she can't possibly be, the more important it is to check it.

OP said she did shadow the tech, and at the end, the tech did one on her.

She actually didn't say the ultrasound was done at the end. I inferred that the whole of the training was the ultrasound. You inferred something different and entirely plausible. Thanks for the counterpoint.

DANG that's just SICK & WRONG!

Agreed, 81. And that's why I love aback. ;)

It's not her job to provide babies for childless couples. She's a human being, not a walking uterus.

She got pregnant, and quite clearly doesn't seem to want it. The commenter was suggesting her letting a childless couple have the joy of a young child, and spare the child what could be (do to financial issues etc) a bad childhood. Why are you acting like the commenter wants to shove babys inside non-pregnant women to give them to adoption agencies? :S

#29 really?!? she shouldn't have opened her legs! I really hope they stop allowing abortion unless its medically necessary just because of stupid fuks like u!

It'll almost be a relief when they close the comments because of the stupid pro-life vs. pro-choice battle that will ensue. My quickie pov, if it's not your baby, it's not your business. Why discuss it further?

Adoption isn't the best thing for all people. Women (and their partners) regret adoption more than they regret abortions a lot of the time. How about we let women make their own choices about their bodies eh?

She should have thought of that BEFORE getting pregnant. So, because it is EASIER and CHEAPER - murder is okay? Sorry, I wasn't aware.

You do realize that some women use every protection known to man(because they want to have sex AND avoid pregnancy) and STILL get pregnant? Do not make it sound like every woman gets knocked up because she weren't responsible.

"She should have thought of that BEFORE getting pregnant." Have you heard of accidents? Oh, right, your type like to say that natural biological urges should be ignored until marriage, even though they're a necessary, healthy and bond-building part of relationships. What about someone like me, who's in a long-term, stable, loving relationship but refuses to get married until I have my PhD? Is that just too bad, then? [That's not to mention the fact that teen pregnancy rates are higher among kids who've been taught abstinence-only, because they don't have the proper knowledge to protect themselves.] No, but you had sex! You did something fun and [if you're not an idiot about it] healthy! You have to suffer the consequences! You have to be emotionally and physically drained for 9 months, pay expensive medical bills, risk losing your job in some cases, or fall horribly behind in college, ending in the most physically painful experience a human could endure, then add another helpless, homeless child to an already extremely clogged, backed-up system. That's the humane thing to do. Give me a break.

I am WELL aware of that. In fact, my original comment - when it came to the abortion issue - was NOT directed at the OP. It was responding to those that were just stating to go have an abortion. I was telling THEM that there are other options. So, rather than jumping on me for telling the OP what she should/should not do...reread it. Thanks

#83 - seriously?? You reached your conclusion about my "type" based on what?? As a woman that WAS one of those teen statistics you so proudly quote, I know EXACTLY what I am talking about! I had my child while I was still in school. Then, as a single TEEN mom, I finished school. I even got a post-secondary education. ALONE. My son is a happy, healthy 15 year old NOW - because of me. I kept him, raised him - and now he is on his way to an amazing future! So don't try telling me what my "type" is! You don't have the slightest clue. Thank God I didn't abort my baby...the world needs more like him.

Maybe I'm being too nit-picky here, but I just wanted to interject one thing: JFox, it's not really fair or accurate to call childbirth the most painful physical experience possible. Pain is a completely relative concept, and at least with labor you get the whole hormones-helping-you-forget thing. I've heard mothers say "It was worse than labor!" countless times, about a wide variety of experiences.

clapping!!!!!!!!! my high school had and still has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in our area and state because they refuse to teach anything but abstinence only. accidents happen. that's why they're called accidents. paternity isn't determined until birth so untimely it's the womans choice anyway! I agree, FYL. that would be a horrible way to find out. stupid people will always be stupid. I've found that out after 6+ years in public safety. it's called job security. these bleeding heart liberals keep us secure in our jobs and make it harder and harder to perform our duties with each passing day. the revolution is coming, be prepared!!

You THANK someone that made NO sense? Really? The "walking uterus" part worked for you? Okay. Sounds good. Also, I don't believe I need to respect something that, until recently, most of the world found morally objectionable. In most cases, however, I am VERY respectful if others' opinions.

With all due respect, infanticide has been happening in all countries throughout history. If you want to stay recent, there's the "one child" policy in China, which is done because of population explosion. There are numerous countries where infanticide is practiced because female children a less valued than male, etc. You may find it morally objectionable, and I'm not suggesting you shouldn't. Just don't assume the rest of the world does. By the way, I am a happy recipient of an adopted boy, whose mother chose adoption instead of abortion when the family determined that they couldn't take care of their child.