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By Noname - This FML is from back in 2009 but it's good stuff - United States
By Noname - This FML is from back in 2009 but it's good stuff - United States
This is what happens when parents force conservative values on kids... (not letting her have a bf part). Now they see the consequences, and hopefully they'll realize that they should have been open to their kid about sex instead of forbidding it because teens will most likely do it anyways. It's their fault. Nothing wrong with being conservative but making TEENS follow those values doesn't work. They WILL do it. FYL for having overly-strict parents. I don't even know any parents who don't let their kids have bf/gf.
I come from a more conservative family, compared to everyone in America because we are religious, but my parents aren't super-conservative to the point where they control every aspect of my life. Instead, they taught me and helped me understand why our religion doesn't allow premarital relationships and premarital sex, and learned to trust me because now that i understand why we don't do those things, I'm not just blindly following our beliefs. I am very happy living without dating and having sex, because it makes my life a lot less complicated when I don't have to worry about some guy that I probably won't be with in the long term.
So, if you don't have poo premarital relationships will your marriage be am arranged one? Because you kinda need a relationship to get to the point to where you know if you're going to marry the man.
Actually I do, just not many. But those kids don't look like they're ever gonna do it, they don't look like they even THINK about it, not even the opposite gender. They're serious and care mostly about academics.
YDI. why were you having sex?
I say FYL. Personally, I think that the parents should have been less strict. I'm a sophomore in high school, but I believe that parents being open about sex is much more important than forcing their beliefs and expecting their child to follow them. My parents are very open with me, and they have never tried to make me subscribe to their ideals. And hey, guess what? I'm still a virgin. My parents are both quite liberal and have never tried telling me that only bad people have sex or that only horrible people date in their teenage years. I've seen this FML happen many, many times in real life. The majority of my extended family are very conservative and aside from a few screw-ups along the way, I'm probably the kid best off out of my entire family. Yup, the "strict" parents kept their kids in line until they were about eighteen. Ever heard of a culture shock? As soon as almost all of my older cousins hit college, all hell broke loose. We've had quite a few teenage pregnancies and quite a few drug-busts in the "conservative" families. I will admit that my older sister has hit a few road blocks and messed up quite a few times, but we've both been much more intelligent about our choices and have yet to "screw up" or truly disappoint our parents. Seriously--if you're reading this and raising a child, take a word of advice: don't forbid them from anything. When I was in sixth grade, my mom handed me a list of banned books she had collected over the years and told me that whichever I wanted to read, I could have. Of course, they were age-appropriate, but I've yet to be scarred or startled by anything in them. My cousin had been forbidden from any kind of dating interaction or drug use and she completely ****** up. Pregnant at fifteen, busted for trafficking drugs at seventeen, and in jail at nineteen. Take it from me: raise your child in a laid-back, open house, and you'll be very proud of what they become.
didn't realize some people told their entire life stories on FML.. anyway, I disagree. My parents were strict and conservative in their beliefs and that never led to my ******* up. The worst thing I've ever done was skip a day of school. I was caught the same day by a teacher and was forced to confess to my parents, who were extremely disappointed in me, and the guilt was so awful I never did it again. I didn't have sex as a teenager, do drugs, drink, etc, and that's with a very strict and conservative upbringing. TLDR You don't need to be lax and shit to have good kids, it really depends on the decisions the children make for themselves
#105 I so agree. My parents had a dating age set for me, I followed it. my kids will have one too. Why? because I watch 13 year olds in "relationships" now and its hysterical but I don't want to deal with "heartbroken" and "love lorn" 13 year olds. lol Maybe your cousin was just set up to end that way... but as a sophomore, you're far from an age to look down on others for "messing up"
You are STUPIIIID...
he deserves to know!!!
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Poor thing. This really sucks. I'm also sorry for all the negative comments you've received. No one knows your situation or what happened. It is true that when you choose to have sex that you choose to take on the risks involved, but as there are so many variables, it is unfair for anyone to judge you for your present situation. Try to take care of yourself, maybe look into some non-religious counseling, even if just a teenage hotline. Also try to remember that no matter who tries to tell you what- it's still YOUR body and YOUR decision.
Guys, maybe if she weren't raised by super conservatives she would've known more about protection, hm? Goes to show where abstinence only education gets you.