The lesson learned here is that when you get with someone, state your intentions clearly so that you both know what each other wants out of the relationship. And if those plans or opinions change over the years, say so. Don't hide your intentions and then act all sour when they leave your arse after finding out your true intentions. Also, eight years? That's a long time not to have discussed your potential future together.

Would-a, Could-a, Should-a won't help you now. Good for her for finding someone who fills her needs and desires. Let's not bemoan her. Good for you for realizing how choices have consequences. There is nothing wrong with your choice, just that there are consequences. This reminds me of. Hank Williams Jr song. All my rowdy friends have settled down. Life changes, We change. Expecting it and we won't change is where there was a failure here. Go out now and make new friends. You may find someone with whom you want to settle down. who knows?

How old are you? If you’re in your 30s and 40s you need to do a serious self-reflection of your life. A partner is not a necessity but stringing someone along without committing is unacceptable. Thank goodness she found someone who gives a rat’s ass about her. “Have fun and living your life” is understandable in your 20s. But once you push past 30, your priorities should be something else. If you wanna “have fun”, ride a roller coaster or something dude. Don’t be playing with girls feelings.

Kudos for realizing it. But it's never too late to learn or change your life around.