I am autistic too. It just means we think differently than the neurotypical person. That said. Here are some skills that help me. My dad’s issues are not my issues. It means don’t classify yourself with your dad. I’ve known plenty that are sweeter than honey and I’ve known plenty that love being @$$#013$. Yes they give autism a bad name and so do killers and worse serial killers. Maybe your dad had a parent or mentor who told him he’s an ah in the most abusive way possible and as a defensive response and coping mechanism he went with it. I’m not a licensed therapist and due to going through multiple deaths at a young age and losing people to cancer and five divorces I’ve been through more therapy than most people. All of these therapies have helped me. I have used each at least once even if it is in an unofficial capacity. DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy, focuses on emotions); CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy focuses on thoughts and judgements); ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on acceptance, following through and committing something through mindfulness); CFT (Compassion Focused Therapy focuses on being kind towards yourself and others through mindfulness). I hope this creates an edge on your business. Good luck. Start with DBT because it is the basis of most therapies listed.