I have been to several funerals of close relatives. I get yelled at for not crying. Same situation with you basically. Im told I didnt love them, or dont care about others. The thing is, I know crying wont bring them back so why bother. Its not like I try not to cry, I just really cant even though Im still upset. FOL

Sucks man. But honestly at a funeral the status quo goes out the window for men not crying. It's a funeral for someone you love that is no longer on this earth. Though I do feel for you... when my brother got cancer I didn't shed a tear even though I was angry he got sick and sad for him. Just the water wouldn't flow. So don't feel you're a soulless person. Though next time don't worry about "trying your hardest not to cry" because at a funeral you can do whatever you want. Personally I'm going to get a clown for mine.

i should think that the puddle and your puffy red eyes might bode otherwise.

oh my go that's awful, sorry for your loss.

Wow 277 people...how the hell does she deserve it?

I didn't cry at my grandmother's funeral, because I never knew her, she had huntington's disease, I was too young to remember her before she forgot who I was, I cared about her, I just didn'r feel sad. It's not a big deal, it doesn't make you souless. As long as you know you cared about her, that's all that matters.

I didn't cry at my grandmother's funeral, and she was really close to me. I loved her more than anyone. It's okay. I wouldn't bother about your mom. Some people can't cry in public. At least you let a few tears fall. I wouldn't want to draw attention to myself and full out bawl during the service, even if I could cry. I would feel like that would be interrupting the minister or speaker. You cared about her, so none of this matters. As long as that fact is true.

I hope that your parents soon realize that you have a soul, and I'm sorry for your loss.

awwwww! i am so sorry about your grandmother :( i know you you feel though. at my grampa's funeral i was trying to cry as silently as possible, just for the sake of not making a scene in front of everyone. and then when the priest started talking and saying his prayers, he all of a sudden burst into a song and it startled me so much that i started cracking up. at which point i just pressed my head up against my best friend's shoulder and tried to pass off my laugh as a cry. it worked and everyone thought i was crying but i did end up telling my family what had happened later on and they all thought it was funny because that's the kind of twisted humor my grampa would find funny :)

my dad did that to me wen my grandmother died. its not that i didnt want to show my grief, i just had no more tears. sorry for your loss