It's a funeral - it's not disrespectful to cry! Where on earth did you hear that? Your mom, however, is probably taking out her grief on you. Bad parenting there.

The same thing happened to me. I just couldnt cry at my grandmas funeral. Then after, my mom asked other people if i cried? People who are strangers could of cried more, but it doesnt mean the loss hurt them more.

Jesus, that sucks. I recommend your mother go and eat a bag of dicks. How incredibly disrespectful it is for her to assume she knows how you feel based on your expressions and at such a venue. People deal with stress and loss in different ways. Hell, I wish I could have been that composed at my uncle's funeral. I was a blubbering mess, so don't feel bad. You should cope with loss in a healthy and adequately expressive manner that is best for you, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

fake, as usual.

for the future, you're allowed to cry and show emotions at funerals.......

i agree with every one who says to not take it personaly... greef is the worst of the emotions and plays with peoples thought process... she was probably just taking her anger out on you... in a few days shell calm down and it will be ok.. im really sorry for your loss.

I didn't cry at my grandma's funeral. I didn't cry for like a week, then one day I broke down. I guess, like you, I felt like I needed to be strong. My mom was having a really hard time with it, and so were my dad and sister. I just wanted to be able to support the rest of the family, or something. It was silly, and a bit unhealthy. Just let your emotions out; it'll be good for you, and make the grieving process easier.

There's nothing wrong with that. At my grandfather's funeral my dad didn't cry, at least not at the funeral. When my great uncle (who was like another grandfather to me, he did everything with me) died i didn't cry at the funeral either, but i did a whole 2 days before and after we got home. That was wrong of your parents to say, some people can grieve in public, some feel more comfortable in private.

So...your mom was looking at other people, trying to gauge how much they were grieving, rather than grieving herself? What the hell?

Crying at a funeral is not disrespectful. I think it's one of the most respectful things there is to do at a funeral. People in this country have gotten the whole emotions thing so wrong. Why don't we all show what we are feeling every minute of the day? This one annoyed me.