In some cultures it IS disrespectful, or even bad luck, to cry loudly during a funeral. Also, like catryn/#64 said, I wouldn't want to drown out the clergy. I didn't cry at either of my grandparents funeral/wake, or even when they died. It doesn't mean I didn't love them. Having no father, my grandpa was like my dad, and I want to get a tattoo for him. [He had a tattoo because he was a marine, and I want one like his, for him.] My mom said the same thing to me, that I was heartless for not crying. Death just... doesn't bother me. It's just something that happens. I'd only get sad if something was unjust, like if someone was murdered. :

I didn't cry at my father's funeral but crying at a funeral isn't disrespectful. However, it was awful that she said that.

#2 funerals are joyous occasions! you are supposed to laugh and dance with glee!

why do ppl have to see someone cry in order to determine whether they cared or not. some ppl (like me) would rather not cry in front of other ppl.

Sorry to hear that. But I'm totally the same. I deal with stuff in my own way, own time. People outta realise that everyone deals with their emotions their own way and that tears are just that. Doesn't mean you don't cry infront of people you have a heart of stone! FTL

#63: hypocrite much? (ur name is try2 b kind or something....) OP: i'm so swy...*hug* like almost every1 said, it's ok 2 not want 2 b a blubbering mess...i prefer crying privately all ALONE in my room myself

your mother's a clueless asshole

Snarky answer: Tell her your grandma had no soul either and isn't in heaven. Srs answer: just ignore your mother.

aw, try not to take it personally. people get mad over ridiculous things when they're that distressed. good luck with everything.

I didn't cry at my grandma's funeral. I don't think anyone in my family cried. You don't have to cry at funerals. People express grief in different ways. It doesn't mean my family didn't love my grandmother. We celebrated her life. I think there were more laughs and smiles during the eulogy than any other funeral I'd ever been to. Don't get me wrong, we were sad to lose her, but my point is you don't have to cry at a funeral. But yeah, just ignore what your mom said, especially if it was her mother who died.