Relationships sink

By BS2280 - 09/06/2020 23:00

Today, my wife told me that she isn't in a place where she can have a physical relationship, that if I want us to have a physical relationship then we need to start from the bottom up, and work on building a friendship. I'm like, we've been married 15 years, and we're not even friends? FML
I agree, your life sucks 3 198
You deserved it 545

Same thing different taste

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There is a crying shortage of info here. What was the sex life for the last 15 years? And if she was not interested for that long, why is OP reacting to it NOW instead of say 15 YEARS AGO? If it was normal until it stopped, then how did OP lose her trust (or how did she say OP lost her trust)? Not nearly enough to vote on.

Sometimes you just end up as business partners in a child production and rearing corporation.

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She's telling you things aren't right in the marriage, that she feels unwanted and not close to you anymore. BUT the fact she told you this INSTEAD of leaving or cheating, means she still loves you and wants to work on fixing the marriage, by having you court her again. This is only an FML if you ignore her plea to make things better. So... if you love her and want to stay married, suggest (sincerely) marriage counseling, and start dating her anew.

sometimes people grow apart as you grow into new people with new interests and thats ok. but she wants to stay together and start over. marrage is only a pice of paper. start dating again, go on dates, dress nice, get her flowers. learn to love each other for the people you are now, not the people you were 15 years ago.